Dad & Girlfriend Drama

I would tell him due to their behavior you're not sure they;d be comfortable at the wedding. You are NOT in charge of the final guest lists, but once you found out there were two showers decided his GF would be more rotatable at the one that did not include his ex-wives. You were trying to be sensitive to all the ladies involved and apparently were wrong. You're big enough to admit that, however their reactions were completely out of line and you're not sure you can trust any commitments he makes to you now or in the future in light of how this was handled.

Duplicate sorry ladies

Your dad sounds real mature *sarcasm* sorry you are going through this. Hope everything smooths out.

Geez, my dad (who I don't speak to & is not invited) would get a piece of my mind and then be uninvited. But, I've gotten to a point in my life that IDGAF if these drama queens are a part of it or not. I have no problem with eliminating people who try to manipulate, belittle, or downright control other people.

Both my parents and my husband's parents are divorced so I know all too well what you are going through trying to play parties accordingly to keep the peace.

I think you have a perfect plan. A shower with your friends and mom's family with your stepmom and a shower with your dad's family and his current girlfriend.

I have no idea why the gf would be so upset about not attending both showers, and it's even worse how your dad is acting. Stick to your decision, try and find some peace with your dad and leave it at that.

SO Sorry, that's terrible! Just remember that it's your day and (try) not to let anyone ruin it. I know it's your dad and it has to be hard, but if he's going to be childish and selfish then he isn't worth your time! Keep your head up!

That is terrible, I am so sorry that you are going through that. I think you did the right thing, gave an opportunity for everyone to be comfortable, Honestly I dont think I would invite his GF to my shower all together but that is me, I got issues with affairs. You deserve so much better then that since you were trying to think of everyone. If he doesn't want to be a father to you then don't be a daughter to him. It is hard, but in my opinion these moments define a person's character and you deserve a father who will hold your hand and be happy for you, see you as his little girl which is what a daughter is supposed to be. Again, I admit to being very spiteful in some ways so I hope you find the path that works for you, where you don't get hurt. -Hugs-

She is your father's gf. Meaning she belongs in your father's family.

Stepmom is divorced from father so she isnt in father's family anymore.

If there are 2 separate showers. One for each side. I think you were doing the right thing. It's kind of a no brainer.

I would try explaining this to dad and the gf. If they dont get it, they are idiots.

Sorry but I dont see how anyone would have chose differently in this situation

I know how you feel about that fatherly love thing. My father told me that he didn't want to come to my wedding if my stepdad was going to be there. And my dad and I were close but my stepdad and I are just closer. So guess who's not coming. I believe you did the right thing. Why would you dad's girlfriend want to even come to the one your stepmom is going to be at? I'm sure she'd feel awkward or alienated herself. You can't please everyone, just keep yourself sane and happy.

How did the call go?