Dads at the Bachelor Party?

Its not unheard of...my mom went to my bachelorette.

I think its a "know your crowd" type of decision.

Will the dads be comfortable? Will they feel left out/out of place? Will your FH be uncomfortable with them there?

My mom is pretty social, and we did dinner and a piano bar, and she already knew 95% of the ladies (and one guy) who attended mine, so I knew she'd be fine, and I'd be fine with her there.

FH is going to a punk show in NYC with a couple friends and my mom seemed offended my dad and brother weren't invited. I thought it would be weird to include them because my dad hates live music and my brother hates anything that isn't country music.

That being said, both FOB and FOG were invited to the bachelor party for the wedding I'm in next month. I guess it would just depend on what they're doing and if FH is comfortable with it.

His dad seemed really into the idea, FH and him are pretty close. I'm sure my dad would be very flattered he likes FH and the Hocking Hills area so I think it would be nice for him. And FH wouldn't mind having them, the more the merrier.

Plus it's a cabin in the woods. I would love to see their faces if FH decided to go to a club instead hahaha.

It sounds like a pretty chill time. My dad would be down for something like that.

He wasn't invited to DH's, but they aren't really that close yet (they've gotten closer since the wedding), and they were going to be downtown on Fremont street drinking and so on. Not really my dad's thing. (He's 80. lol)

Mom's at Bach parties is weird. Or maybe it's just my friends mom was a whack job and ruined the trip.

My FIL went to just a small part of H's bachelor party - he just went to dinner, and didn't join in on the festivities before and afterwards, which I thought was nice.

I know my dad and uncle want to plan something to take my FH for a bachelor party. I don't believe they will be joining the one his friends are throwing him. So your dad and FIL also have the option to do something with him on their own beforehand.

I would say no

I think it depends on individual relationships, my FH will be inviting his dad.

My dad had my moms dad at his

My dad and his will both be going. My mom is coming to part of mine.

I think it's individually based. Would your FH and his guests be comfortable with it, and would the dads have a good time, or would they feel left out?

Also, I love Hocking Hills!

I would absolutely NOT want parents on mine, but to each his (or her) own.

I went to a friend's bachelorette recently and her mom, FMIL, and a few aunts were invited. The "moms" came to lunch and dinner with us at restaurants but did their own thing at the house they rented during the daytime and after dinner. (They were invited to come out with us, but opted out.)

It was fine, but it seemed a little silly on their part to travel so far and pay a lot for accommodation when they were only with us for 4 meals. I guess they got to know each other better, which is also good.

My MIL asked my H about this early on in the wedding planning. He has a good friend-like relationship with his Dad and both our Dads like to party. So he did invite both the Dads to his bach, and everyone had fun. I did not want to invite the Moms though. My Mom wouldn't have wanted to come, and I wouldn't be as comfortable with my FMIL there. Just a warning that your FMIL might start asking about your bach next, you might want to have an answer prepared. My MIL asked about the bachelorette a bunch of times during planning.

I think FFIL would be fine but my dad is a pastor (cool with drinking, and drinks himself) and FH's best man is an atheist and VERY opinionated and can be kind of debate-y.

And while there a lot of things I think they would agree on, if the topic of religion was ever brought up I would hate to be in the room, especially when alcohol is involved.

I just would hate if something were to happen that could sour the mood of the party and the rest of the wedding.

ETA: And it wouldn't be fair to invite one dad and not the other, and there's no way my dad would never know as my brothers one of the groomsmen.

I think you should raise those points to your FH and let him make the decision. Maybe he can talk to his BM if he really wants to invite the dads.

@Salisbride I know I'm not inviting the moms to my Bach party as my girls and I are going clubbing and both of our moms are pretty far removed from that kind of fun hahaha.

I know neither of the moms would want to join in

IF I even have a bachelor party, it will probably be taking in a baseball/football/or hockey game so I don't see a reason not to invite my dad... Not all bachelor party's are crazy and not everyone wants a crazy one.

Ours will be, and my mum and mil are coming to dinner/drinks part of my bachelorette.

Shit my mom is throwing my Bachelorette party with male strippers and all! And I am happy she will be there. Wouldn't have it any other way!

But I am super close to my mom since my dad's been out of the picture for many many years..