Long story short... I moved out when I was 18 and subsequently moved out of state where I have been for almost 12 years. The entire time I have lived away from my family, the main point of contact was my mom, not my dad, 99.9% of the time by text message (our family aren't phone people or people who communicate often). The only time I talked to my dad was by text for birthdays, father's day, holidays, etc.
Maybe three years ago now, my dad left my mom and moved to another state, not my state. And our communication has been the same as it always had been up until maybe 6 months ago. My dad constantly tries to call me or now texts me things that are so odd for our relationship; Baby girl, sweetheart, etc. and all the sudden adds in an I love you or I miss you. These words have never come out of his mouth before and I find it odd that he's saying over text now.
I'm guessing the main reason he's trying to communicate is because of the wedding in October and he wants to be involved, but I don't really want to talk to him more than I did before. It's not that we have had a falling out or anything, we've just never really been close. He is walking me down the aisle and we are having a first dance.
Today, he received our invitation and text me to say he needs to call me to ask questions on how to fill out the RSVP. Like really? Check accept or decline and write your name. He said he gets that but has more questions and needs to call. I told him I'm not available to talk and he could ask me through text message. He is insisting on calling so I guess I'll take the call over the weekend.
I generally don't like talking on the phone and I am really not a people person in general. I don't want him to think that all the sudden, because the wedding is close, we are close and he can call whenever or call me cutesy names.
Would it be inappropriate to tell him I don't want to talk on the phone an prefer text messages and that I don't want to be called these names? I'm so tempted but holding back for now.
Have you even been in a similar situation? If yes, how did you deal with it?
It's really bothering me, I just don't know the best route to take.
