Dates for sending invites, rsvps, etc when wedding is post holidays

SO are you thinking of sending them in October? that's around Halloween not to say that people celebrate it but you never know, then you have Thanksgiving, then Christmas-you're smack in the middle of everything. To have your RSVPs back in time you want those by January 1st to allow for proper time and I'd even mention December something just to allow for more time. What were you thinking as a timeline?

I personally would have the RSVP date December 15th and start reaching out December 16th for any not received - get everyone before the holidays! We did our STD end of January and some relatives still had them lost in their holiday mail :/

I would send them out right before thanksgiving (before people start receiving holiday cards) and make the due date before Christmas. Call the people who didn’t rsvp after New Years!

Thanks all - Adding that the MOH is planning my shower for Oct. 13 (early due to the holidays) and I don't know if it's rude to have the shower before invites to the wedding go out?

We are obviously not inviting anyone to the shower that's not invited to the wedding... but still.. not sure on etiquette here!

The best thing I did for my September 2 wedding was send out the invites early. We only invited 57 people, but it’s Labor Day weekend in our town that is very pricey. Nearly everyone has to travel for the wedding. So we sent them out at the end of March or beginning of April (can’t remember) and we had 40 RSVPs within a month. I now have 47 people with 1 person that is still iffy because of her travel schedule. It’s helped so much with the planning to know exactly the guest count. So I would err on the early side and don’t worry about tradition!

Send them out late October and make the RSVP date mid-December. It’s totally fine to have the bridal shower invite go out before the wedding. My shower was in March and my wedding invites didn’t go out until April.

Our wedding is 1/5/19 and we plan on sending them mid October. We do have a good chunk of people traveling which is one reason but I think sending the invites before the holiday season gets going will be helpful.