Dealing with a picky bridal party

Did you tell them where they need to stay or did you all agree to book a place together? I personally didn't care where my bridal party slept. Two stayed at the hotel we were at, 1 got an Airbnb, and the other just traveled from home and back at the end of the night.

View Quoted Comment We all agreed and then my fiance and I chose the spot!

Honestly I would just let her book a room wherever she wants and she can uber back when shes drunk..I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it when you have much more to worry about.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree with this. Does it really matter where they stay?

The amount you're spending on the wedding is irrelevant.

The complaints are about cost and distance from the venue, which are valid concerns. Everyone's situation is different, and what may not seem too expensive to one person may be too expensive to another. They should be able to choose their own accommodations if the ones you have chosen aren't within a budget or location that they are comfortable with. If it's important to you that everyone stays at the same place then maybe you should look for less expensive options that are closer to the venue.

That's why I chose to not have a big bridal party. Only having a MOH and BM.

View Quoted Comment This exactly. Even if you spend 30k on your wedding or more doesn't mean your bridesmaids have the same liquid capital. Maybe she can use travel points for the hotel. As long as she's on time for photos, it really shouldn't matter where she stays.

And please, call an Uber for your friend who wants to get shwasted, lol. $25 bucks is worth that peace of mind

They are not being picky; they are raising valid points. If you are requiring them to stay at a certain place then you should pay for it. Otherwise, they should stay wherever they want. As for transportation, a lot of couples arrange for transportation for their wedding party, even if it is just providing an Uber code.

It doesn't matter where they stay. They are adults and can decide for themselves where they want to stay and how much they pay for it. Same with transportation. Let it go - you dont' get to spend people's money for them.

They get to decide where they're staying if they're paying for it (and even if you're paying for accommodations, they can decline your offer and pay for themselves to stay somewhere else if they choose). What you're choosing to spend on the wedding is irrelevant. This is not being picky or nickel and diming you; it's her money, so she gets to decide how she spends it. If you want everyone to stay somewhere specific, it's on you to pay for that.

Let them stay wherever. It's more hassle on them to have to meet where you all are staying to get ready that day (I am assuming at the hotel you picked?). That's on them. I personally would rather be at the hotel you're getting ready at if that's the case. If you are getting ready at your venue, then it doesn't matter where they stay I guess. As far as traveling, everyone is an adult. He can either hitch a ride with another bridal party member or uber. My mom keeps trying to obsess over what my girls are doing if they are driving to the venue then home. I told her to stop because they know their limits and what they are supposed to be doing as far as drinking and traveling. It's the same as going to a party or out to a bar or club. They need to be able to drive home if they decided to drive there or get a DD. If for some reason they can't then I guess they have to uber home and get their car in the morning.

I would let the girls stay in whatever hotel they want & uber back from the wedding if they want to drink.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this. .