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Brook
Just Said Yes September 2026

Debating on if we want bridesmaids and groomsmen

Brook, on January 23, 2022 at 9:33 AM Posted in Planning 0 11
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I would really like your honest opinion on this! My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for September 2nd, 2023. We are planning to keep the guest list 100 (or less), on the smaller side to save money. The ceremony and reception will be held at the same location, outdoors at a beautiful retreat.


Although it’s not traditional, we both are unsure if we want bridesmaids/groomsmen because we don’t have a lot of people we would consider that special to stand next to us on that important day.
I’m worried about what our families / friends will think about that decision but most importantly I could care less about spending money on a bachelorette party and going through all the planning of bridesmaid dresses and such.
I still want to have my sister as my maid of honor, and my fiancé wants his best friend to be his best man. Has anybody been to a wedding like this? What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Sloane, on January 26, 2022 at 10:55 AM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I have been to multiple weddings that had only a best man and MOH, and it was just like any other wedding. I have also been to multiple weddings that had no wedding party at all. This is 100% an optional part of your ceremony, and you should definitely do what feels right to you. The people standing next to you should be your nearest and dearest. There is no need to add people who aren’t that close just for the sake of having a larger wedding party. Plus, as you mentioned, less people = less planning, money, and potential for issues!
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  • Brook
    Just Said Yes September 2026
    Brook ·
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    I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. Your POV makes me feel so much more comfortable about this decision. Thank you Cece!
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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
    Bird ·
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    We didn’t have a bridal party! No MOH and no best man! No regrets whatsoever. Our family was baffled at first but they eventually got over it! I asked my sisters to give a champagne toast speech and my husband asked his brother to hold the rings during the ceremony. People still felt special without the title.
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  • L
    Super August 2023
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    We're only having a best man and MOH. Since your more then a year out, think about it and see how y'all feel in May.

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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    That's a really common to have two in the wedding party or even no wedding party at all. I doubt that anyone will notice or think it's weird.

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  • Amber
    Just Said Yes October 2022
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    I’m in the SAME exact boat! My fiancé wants a bridal party… I do not. I don’t have anyone that is special enough, plus it only add more stress!
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  • Brook
    Just Said Yes September 2026
    Brook ·
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    I feel a huge weight off my shoulders knowing that it’s totally okay to not have a bridal party! Your wedding day is not about anyone else except you and the person you’re choosing to spend the rest of your life with. The less stress the better 🤍
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    If you have already asked them then you need to keep them. Asking them to step down is a friendship ending move. They should not be asked before 6 months before the wedding but what’s done is done so move on to the next part of planning.
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  • Brook
    Just Said Yes September 2026
    Brook ·
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    Nobody has been asked! Our wedding isn’t until 2023
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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    I think it's perfectly acceptable and no one should frown on it. My sister got married in December and did not have a typical bridal party, just her 2 young daughters standing with her. And the groom had only a best man. It was very sweet. I think it shows that you put thought into just focusing on you two.
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    I’m so not interested in a bridal party. I have more friends than my fiancé and honestly I would have to pick between 20 women to decide who should be a bridesmaid or not. I don’t want the headache of hurt feelings, bachelorette party. Etc. what I am doing is having special seating for my Soror’s and close friends. I’m gifting them Tiffany bracelets and mini bouquets. All will be recognized but none will stand up with me.
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