Declines from family

I had that experience with my family—no one from my dads side came. It ate at me during the weeks leading up to the wedding, but day of, I wasn’t thinking about them, I was thinking about my new husband.


So it sucks, your feelings are valid, but your wedding will still be so special.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! I’m trying to remember that even if no one shows up at the end of the day I get to marry my best friend. 💙

Yes! My cousin who I’m been close with and have done so much for and told him over a year in advance, promised he would come. Well, he texted last week that he couldn’t make it with many excuses. None of which are valid in my opinion. Bottom line…don’t expect too much of people. Sad, but true.

View Quoted Comment Why is it always the ones that say they will absolutely be there?? I agree with you, leaving my expectations at the door from now on!

That sucks and I know how you feel. Just found out yesterday that not one person from my fiancés side of the family is coming except his daughters. What really hurts is not only seeing him hurt but the fact they never communicated this until I called and asked. The wedding is next month. He is more depressed about it than he lets in so I have him his wedding gift yesterday just to see him smile.

View Quoted Comment It’s really hard to lower expectations. I don’t know how to do that. So my cousin, who declined is getting married at the end of the year and I’m not going. It may seem childish, but I’m going to treat others like they treat me.

I know how you feel. I was particularly hurt that my mom's cousin, who was like a sister who her (my mom passed away five years ago), and her husband didn't come to my wedding, even though they went to both of my sisters' weddings. They'd also missed my high school and college graduations. She then gave me this hideous cross-stitch as a wedding gift. (We regifted it at a white elephant gift exchange at Christmas.) There were a few other relatives who didn't come that irked me a bit. Sometimes even now, I still do, even though I've now been married for almost six months. The thing that gets me through those moments is knowing that the people who mattered most DID show up, and we had a beautiful wedding. The people who matter the most will come to yours.

View Quoted Comment Uggh!! I’m so sorry! And I appreciate the kind words, you are absolutely right 😊❤️

View Quoted Comment It definitely is, after all the work that goes into it all…trying really hard not to feel let down!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow!! I’m so sorry that his family will not be there for him. That was so sweet to give him his gift. I hope despite all of that your day is wonderful for both of you!

Hi dont let this get you down these are things that we have swollen it and move on. Some that you really want there it could be number of things that it could be and yes it can make us sad but,we can not will not let this ruin our big day it's there lost. Happy planning your big special day.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. It's tough to see the declines of your guests you invited. Try not to let it get to you and know that you have people coming out to see you and your partner. But I get it, there were certain family members of mine I was sad to see couldn't make it. I hope your wedding day is great.

I know how you feel. My mom passed away 9 years ago and she only has 2 sisters and 1 brother. One of her sisters lives out of the state and the other doesn't drive and neither does my uncle. I haven't received any of their RSVPs back yet, but I'm preparing myself for none of them to be there. On the other side of it my fiance doesn't have a big family to begin with and 2 different sets of relatives that he really counted on being there both RSVP'd they can't come. He is so bummed and keeps telling me he's so over the whole wedding thing.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry. The whole thing is so stressful. I hope your day is beautiful, and I know it will be!