Declines

I completely understand. We’ve had 3 couples and 2 singles cancel within this past week. I think for me too is also the ones you’d thought come and didn’t RSVP.

Completely agree! I had cousins who I saw a couple weeks ago tell me how excited they were and couldn't wait to celebrate, and then yesterday we were blindsided by their rsvp declining (too hard to travel here). While we understand the reasoning, it definitely hurts!

Same. My fiance's brother and his wife aren't coming because their little boy turns seven around that time and they want to have a birthday party that weekend. I didn't understand why they couldn't just have the party on a different day. If they were distant relatives I would understand it, but when it's your own brother? Still, at least they let us know in plenty of time. Some of my cousins didn't tell me they weren't coming until well after the catering deadline, so I had to guess numbers. Some of my friends just haven't replied at all. I'm trying not to take it personally - it's likely they aren't thinking about all the planning that goes into this, and it just keeps slipping their minds - but it's hard not to feel a little hurt, especially when the people who haven't replied are people I've done a lot for in the past.

I completely understand this as I had family members who lived closer to the venue than we do, decline with attending our wedding and it really hurt. Yet what hurt even more than that is with the people who RSVP'd saying they would be attending and they didn't show at all and we still haven't heard a word from them since.

Yes I'm totally against just anyone showing up without sending RSVP back on a Yes
This is why we've hired two security guards and they will be checking my respective guest into our reception venue name and clipboard in hand. I believe it'll be best this way,I'm not spending money on a idea of someone possibly coming to my reception.

It is sad when people you expected to be there can't be, currently with covid, air travel cancellations and everything being so extra expensive I think weddings can be harder for some people to attend. It is a bummer though but try not to let your disappoint overshadow the joy of your wedding. Hope you can have the best day with the people who can make it.

I always think about this when I get wedding invitations. While I've only said no to one wedding in the last several years, I truly never appreciated how much an invitation really meant until I started planning my own wedding. The time and effort that goes into it, and how carefully the wedding guest list is selected...I mean, just wow. Truly a new level of meaning!