Delayed honeymoon thoughts

I'll be honest and say after a few months to me it's a vacation and not a honeymoon. You are already back into the swing of life etc. and as a previous poster said I have to assume the 'wedding magic' has slipped away. that's my opinion and I knows it's not popular here on the boards.

It honestly depends on you two. Me and DH waited 4 months before we went. I can tell you right now I think there were more pro's than con's. Yes it will kind of suck that you guys won't be doing everything the "typical" way and it can feel like you're just going back to real life but it's worth it in the end. We decided to take 2 days off after the wedding to obviously still enjoy our time, but with us waiting we saved money so we could actually afford it (more activities not stressing about extra expenses etc.) Plus honestly it gives you two something to look forward to. I would recommend doing a mini moon even as a little as two days just to enjoy the new feeling of being married.

ETA: Also depending on where you're going it might be smart to wait I know a lot of people who book Caribbean honeymoons during hurricane season which is definitely something to consider. We wanted to go to Puerto Rico but because of the hurricane we ended up going to Aruba.

We will be having a delayed honeymoon. We are getting married out of state and will be renting a house on a lake a week before our wedding, so I just can’t afford to take more time offf of work to have my honeymoon right after the wedding.

We are going to do a HM later due to FH's work, but from looking at the other comments we should be able to do a mini-moon.

We are delaying it. We are getting married in September and planning our honeymoon for November.

We waited for a number of reasons. I ama corporate event planner and have 2 big events every summer so I planned the wedding for August so I could take the week off before (my first summer event ended 3rd week of July). I got married Sunday , August 6th and went back to work the following Tuesday since my next event was the third Sunday of August. Getting married in August saved us $ since it was considered an off peak month for my venue. We got married indoors so the heat didn’t really matter. We wanted to go to St. Lucia so we delayed the honeymoon until November so we could avoid most of hurricane season. We were so happy we put it off as we were exhausted for 3 days after the wedding and I loved that I didn’t have to think about packing on top of everything else. It was also great to go somewhere warm when it was colder out (we live in NY).

We are doing the same! We are getting married this September but are waiting until spring for Honeymoon!

I think waiting on a honeymoon, is perfectly normal these days. I am getting married in September 2018, we are doing mini-moon, and going to Italy next year when the weather is nice and save up little be more, so we don't have to worry about extra spending.

We went back and forth on this. I was totally fine with postponing so we could save some more money and not have to plan both the honeymoon and wedding at the same time. Plus, FH's job at the time sucked and he would only have been able to take a week off and I told him we need more than a week for our honeymoon. He was insistent upon going right after the wedding because he felt like if we waited, it wouldn't feel like a honeymoon, but just another vacation. Our finances are doing good and his company unexpectedly closing meant a better job with better vacation time, so we decided not to wait. We are taking one day after the wedding to recoop and then we head to Hawaii for 2 weeks.

My friends got married last year and still haven't gone on their honeymoon. They did take a week long mini-moon right after though.

We are delaying our honeymoon. We will get married in August and won’t go on our honeymoon until March. Due to work schedules this was our best and really only option. We will be going on a mini moon the weekend after we get married to have some time for us.

We are doing a "mini moon" after the wedding - going to the Texas Hill Country and then for our one year, we plan on doing something big like a cruise or all inclusive. After all the time and money we're spending on the wedding, we just want something simple to relax and hangout.

I’ll just offer one piece of advice that isn’t on here. I think waiting is fine if it works better financially and with your work schedules. A lot of people do it.



I don’t know anything about you and FH’s decisions on having children but if you’re considering it remember you cannot travel to any country with Zika while pregnant and if you travel to a Zika country you need to take precautions against pregnancy. Also get tested when you return home for the disease before you start trying to concieve. Many popular honeymoon destinations have had incidences of Zika. Basically any tropical location. You can check the CDCs website.

Ok done my public health rant.

Delayed honeymoons are more and more common. We are taking 3 days to explore VT after the wedding (we live in CA but wedding is in ME) and then will go to Italy 4 months later for 2 weeks. We are doing this because I can only take days off of work as I earn them so I just wont have the time to do it earlier. I am actually glad this is our situation because I already have so much to plan for the wedding, it's easier for me to not have to think about another big thing.

We are doing this! It will allow us to have longer since we can't take extended time off and we already have to have a day and a half for the wedding and rehearsal. I am excited about it, and don't think its a bad idea at all!

We're doing this too but truthfully it's due to finances. We are paying for the wedding ourselves (and we're both in education!) so the money just wasn't there for us to take a week-long honeymoon where we wanted. So we're doing what many others are and taking a mini-moon after the wedding at a nearby place just to get away. Then for our 1 year anniversary we will do the resort "honeymoon" trip that we wanted.

To be very honest, I'm still not quite 100% happy about it. I feel the same way about it not feeling like a big deal. You're supposed to get married, have a send-off, then go to an awesome honeymoon. I feel like i'm missing out on what I've always wanted (and this is my second wedding). But I know it makes more sense for us to do it this way and we get TWO trips this way too! If we can wait, we'll be able to upgrade rooms and possibly flights too. It just makes more sense financially but my heart is a little sad still but I'm trying to change my thinking!

FH and I are doing a delayed honeymoon. I work in a school and am already having to use 3 personal days for our wedding in October. I did not want to have to use all my sick/personal days in one sitting, in case something comes up later on and I need the days. We’re going on our honeymoon in April when it is my spring break.

However, if I wasn’t restricted due to work I would definitely take my honeymoon right after the wedding. I agree with others and think going right after getting married keeps you in a “magical” sort of mood/feeling. If you wait too long after the wedding it almost seems like a vacation, not a honeymoon in my opinion. I don’t have that option though and am going to enjoy every minute of my honeymoon! It gives us time to save up extra money as well for all those extra excursions/activities we want to do.☺️ I’m sure whatever you choose will still give you that magical feeling.

We are going on a mini-moon in Vegas and then going to Europe in the Spring. Plus we have a destination wedding to attend in December (Jamaica) so we'll have plenty of time to relax after our big day.

We probably won't do a big trip until our anniversary just due to budget. My brother and SIL had a delayed honeymoon much like you're talking about, and loved it. I honestly think you might enjoy it more as you won't be so exhausted from the planning/ wedding. 😀

FH and I also considered taking our honeymoon at a later time. We have been traveling together for 3 years and we live together so I didn't think a honeymoon right after the wedding was such a huge deal. I say do what you feel is best for both of you. It don't matter when you decide to take it because it will still be amazing. I hope your decision becomes easier.

My fiancé and I are definitely not going on a honeymoon right away! We’d love to but with paying for the whole wedding ourselves it’s just not financially possible. So we compromised and decided we’d take a mini moon somewhere for 3-4 days after the wedding and then save up for the honeymoon and go on it for our 6 month anniversary! That way we still get to go away after the wedding instead of right back to work!