Deleting Registry(s)

I posted on another forum about this, but this is actually becoming very common. A lot of people are opting for honeymoon funds/ no registries. I usually get a visa gift card for couples weddings I attend because I want them to get what they want. It's always appreciated. I wouldn't straight out ask for money, but keep the Honeyfund up if that's what you want. My husband's family are all in the wedding business and they deal with brides weekly and see it all. Pretty good source if you ask me 😉

Just don’t register. No honeyfund. Hoping to receive money is fine, blatantly asking for it isn’t. Your guests don’t need to be told that cash is a good gift, everyone knows that.

Normally guests will get the idea that you want money if you dont have a registry to begin with. If they are confused they will call and ask what you want and just say money. lol.

View Quoted Comment I have a washing website that says we are registered at BBB, Amazon, and Honeyfund. I was going to take BBB and Amazon down and leave the honeyfund up. I wasnt going to blatantly ask my guests for money.

View Quoted Comment A honeyfund is literally asking guests for money to pay for your vacation.

View Quoted Comment That's what a "Honeyfund" is for lol

View Quoted Comment Yep, and honeyfunds are tacky and rude. It’s not your guest’s job to pay for your vacation. If you can’t afford it, postpone until you can. Don’t ask someone else to fund it.
As I said in my original comment, and you can find on thousands of WW forums by searching “honeyfund,” not registering is a much more polite option.

We only have a Honeyfund, don’t let people tell you it’s tacky. It’s the norm now, especially for people in their 20s/30’s, at least in my friend group. We’ve received great feedback from our family/friends on this. I would say 90% of weddings I’ve been to in the last 2 years have had a Honeyfund, house down payment fund, or any other various funds for cash gifts.

I think taking down your other registries would be great to point people towards your Honeyfund/cash gifts. Make sure to also hide your registry on BBB so people don’t go look you up directly on the BBB site.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! ♡♡♡

I'd just delete the registry. If you don't register for items, most people will get the hint and give you money instead. We had a registry because we needed things, but we still got plenty of money from the actual wedding! Asking for money, in my opinion (and the opinion of most people on this forum) is rude. A honeyfund is just a cutesy way of asking for money, and it's tacky. Just delete the registries, people will get the hint You may still get some physical gifts, you can decide to either keep them or return them.

View Quoted Comment Not replying at all to wedding ir party invitations, sending RSVP back late, accepting invitations them not showing, sometimes 30% of guests giving no gifts, BM having tantrums over not getting what they want, brides dropping friends from their WP for not meeting every wish of the bride, people interfering with photographers to take their own pics, and people posting pics of a couple's ceremony while it is going on, to the world the couple may never have met, all these things have become common now, most especially among those in their 20's and 30's. But every one of these things is considered terribly ride, showing no consideration for the feelings or privacy of others. Just because lots of people do it does not make it right. Asking for money, or deposits to bank accounts, or vacation and honeymoon funds, has always been considered to be bad manners, and still is , no matter how many people are doing it. People always have the choice of giving a gift of money, and they know it. And if people ask what you want, you may say, we are saving up for something, and the guest may give you money. But straight out asking for money has never been considered polite, nor is asking for contributions to fund vacations ( or as a relative of mine tried, a Power Bass boat.) or anything else. Gee mom, Susie's and Jennifer's parents say it is okay, so I should be able to do it... Is something kids say all the time. But adults are expected to evaluate things on their own merits, and know that if something is thought to be wrong , the fact that others do it won't make it right.