I just want to first say that my sisters and I have an unusual relationship. We love each other and have no qualms with one another, but we choose to not really hang out or spend our free time together because our personalities are extremely different. I understand that might seem crazy to some people, but that's just how we are and we're fine with it!
Fast forward to today, I have 8 bridesmaids and I included my 2 sisters, but they've done nothing but cause stress for me. Examples include them telling me that they "refuse to dance" with the bridal party when they enter the reception because they aren't comfortable so I let it slide, they told me they don't want to come to my bachelorette party because they're not close with my friends... again I let it slide. The latest is that they're telling me they can't pass out wedding favors because they have work the next day and want to leave early. Theres been other minor things here and there but those are the heavy hitters. And no single one of these is a huge problem, it's the PATTERN of being problematic that is bothering me.
I've been a super reasonable bride thus far -- gave them 32 dress options to pick from on D&B, let them pick whatever shoes they want, not requiring make up or nails to be done, letting them do whatever with their hair, didn't require them to help or attend the bridal shower (although they all came). But I'm starting to feel like I'm being taken advantage of, they're dictating a lot of their own desires on my wedding which doesn't sit well with me -- if anything, it should be the opposite.
So I'm planning to have a conversation with them, I'm going to apologize for not making the roles/responsibilities of a bridesmaid clear from the beginning and then go over in a nice way, what my expectations are (which are super basic -- again, I'm not a bridezilla) and then give them 2 choices, they remain as bridesmaids and agree to the roles and responsibilities, OR they decide it's too much and choose to step down. Regardless, I'm planning to make it super clear that I'm okay with whatever is their choice and understand that the commitment is becoming a burden for them.
Does this sound okay? Or is there anything else I should do or say?