Destination Bachelorette Party Questions

All I know is that my weekend will be in Puerto Rico and I can't wait

Well you shouldn't be planning this yourself. Have you talked to your girlfriends about how much they have to spend? How Iong are you going for, would they have to take off work? I know I wouldn't be willing to spend that amount of money on a bachelorette party.

I've really heard that it's fine to plan your own bachelorette. It's not a shower. IMO there is nothing wrong with it.

ANYway, as long as you are being considerate of other budgets (even though you are paying for flight tickets), I say pick the vacation that is most comfortable for you. I am personally NOT into a club scene, so I'd probably jump at New Orleans.

But what is most important is telling you girls (separately) what the costs are and ask them what their budget is. I would actually ask this first and foremost before you even present options to them. You might find you are way over what they are willing to spend.

I keep hearing (3rd wedding forum I've asked on) that I'm not supposed to plan my own party...both of my maids are married and they planned their own, most brides in my rural area plan their own Bachelorette. I would've explained more in depth but was WAY over the character limit.

I'm thinking 3 or 4 nights in either location.

All inclusive is ALL inclusive (food, drinks, beach, room) for that price.

I am planning on asking them separately, but I accidentally blurted out Miami when I both asked them to be bridesmaids, and they were VERY VERY excited.

I will pay for flights. So their third of the room would be the only price they'd have to pay...that's why im personally leaning towards cancun all inclusive.

I'm just looking for opinions on destination Bachelorette parties, not if I should plan it myself or not.

I guess that's true. In my circle it's always more casual though "let's have a girls night!" and not so much a "thing". My bachelorette was a night out at a few local bars. I didn't plan it myself, but the girl who "arranged" it basically asked me everywhere I wanted to go.

I know it's different. I guess I just don't know much about her situation. All my BMs were from out of state, so they relied on me heavily for activities before the wedding as I was the only one local for when they all arrived.

You're right, I guess I just kind of wasn't thinking about it that way since to me bachelorette meant such a different thing. It was nothing different than a normal weekend.

That is so nice that you are paying for their plane flights!! I'd vote for New Orleans just because I've been to a bachelorette there and it was soooooo fun and there are a ton of different things to do (you also don't have to worry about the whole 'getting into clubs' thing).

I also think they're all a slightly different "vibe" - Miami could be a more 'clubby' weekend, Cancun could be 'beachy' and relaxing, and New Orleans is booze heavy and touristy (in a good way). All good options!

Been to all 3, Miami is my favorite U.S. city. I agree it would be better to have a beach (I'm from florida I love the beach). I'm getting married in New Orleans, its great & fun, great food, but no beach. So in which case I say go with Mexico, all inclusive to have more of a set cost for everyone, plus beach.

Do you know your girls can swing the $500+? I have no advice on destination bachelorettes, because this has not financially been possible for any of the weddings I have been in...

My MOH and BM are planning mine in las vegas and we decided to do it co-ed

1st night will be the whole bridal party plus a few close friends that are not part of the bridal party but want to join us

2nd night we'll separate and the girls are asking me if I want a stripper in the room just for us or ir id rather go to a strip club...haven't decided on that one yet

one of my BM lives in las vegas so she will be the one doing all the bookings so that we can get the locals discount

so exciting!!!

I will never understand elaborate Bach parties.

I'd go with Cancun because it is stress free - if you are at all worried about costs, then getting into the clubs in Miami is the least worrisome -- drinks and bottle prices, should you incur any, can get quite high and up the final 'cost' per person for the trip.

Cancun has a lot of activities and the all inclusive keeps it manageable for you and your group. It seems to be what you're leaning toward!

Vegas?

Me neither Emmy.

I would feel terrible asking people to pay that much for what? One last hurrah before marraige? I am good thanks, I gave up that shit 9 years ago when I committed to FH.

Eek. Don't throw your own party! And, honestly, the cost seems quite cheap for those destinations. My MOH is planning mine in Nashville, and it will likely be more than $500 that with airfare. I'm honestly surprised 8 of my girlfriends are down! I'm super excited, but would never ask them to!

I don't get these big bachelorette parties. Weddings are expensive enough with dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gift, shower... and now a $500-600 trip? EEEK. Sorry, just not my thing

In my opinion, that price is way too steep, I would not go if I had to pay that much. I think around $200/300 at the most is more reasonable, but you know the women that are going better than we do, could they afford and are they willing to spend up to $650 for a weekend away?

Bachelorette parties for me aren't about a "last hurrah" it's just about a weekend away with your friends, having a good time to celebrate your upcoming wedding.

I think it's whatever you want and makes you happy. It's presumably your only time having this experience (getting married) so if it floats your boat to have a elaborate bachelorette party, to plan it yourself, destination, or quiet evening with a few girls I think it's fine. My sister is planning for us to do Vegas. Im not sure who's all coming, I would guess only maybe 3 or 4 girls including my two sisters.

OP, I like Cancun from your list, the price is good and seems like you'd get clubbing and beach

Pick Cancun. It sounds WAY more exclusive than Miami, and the exchange rate has sky-rocketed in favor of the USD over the past 5 years, so it will be cheaper.

I'm from Miami. If you're paying that much for a hotel, in guessing you're staying on south beach. Be aware that drinks and food and everything else will be super expensive there too. Last time I went out on the beach a shot was $17. Just a warning if you plan on going clubbing the whole weekend

You aren't supposed to plan your bachelorette party, first of all. I think $300 is about max. for a bachelorette party but in all honestly, WE aren't the people you need to ask! Your bridal party/whoever you want to invite is! I did a weekend beach trip with my girls for my bachelorette, planned by my sister/MOH. We planned a similar trip for my best friend's wedding. In both instances, my sister or we (the bridal party) checked with the girls about their budgets before booking. My dear friend's bachelorette in New Orleans is next month and I can't go, because just flights and hotels are over $500, not including food or drinks, and that's just for a weekend! Of all the invited guests, less than half can even go because of the cost. No one asked our budgets before they planned the trip.