Destination Bachelorette Party Questions

Thank you all for your answers, and for those of you who were having constructive criticisms and not just "you shouldn't do that" THANK YOU!

I was not asking if is should, because I am, but which of the choices you would choose or if you have had experiences in either of these areas with groups of people. Or if that price is exorbitant, I figured it out (why were planning so early, trying for a debt free wedding) that its roughly 35 dollars a check (at 1,000 dollars a person). I was thinking that this would not be hard to plan for.

I know that it might "be" or "seem" rude, but honestly, I brought up the idea, so I thought that I should plan it out and give options (especially pay for the plane tickets) ...I've been with my FI for coming on 9 years, and friends with these girls just as long...I'm having a feeling that this will be more of a girls trip for all of us, and not really for a "special occasion" ...its all making sense in my mind, I'm not even sure I'm explaining it properly...

I hope I wasn't coming off as snarky or rude or conceited, but I asked this same question on three different boards, and you would NOT BELIEVE the horribleness people will throw over the internet on some of these forums...so I'm afraid I might have gotten a little defensive. I apologize.

Thank you anyways! you're the most mature and nicest board that I've found.

Everyone's different, what's expensive to me, may not be to your friends. Good luck! Let us know what you picked.

Thank you Michelle, I was planning on staying in South Beach, and I did read that the drinks were outrageous. Then I heard the easiest way to get in a club was to reserve a table and bottle service, or hire a company, and that would just add countless dollars on to an already expensive trip. That's another plus for Cancun, I know that (last time I went anyways) that once you paid to get in some clubs that it was more of an open bar, which would be nice since we wouldn't have to carry cards or a purse.

ADD ON: I have no plan to book this without asking first, I have whole sheets planned out with many hotels and places (Montreal in January! yay) at all different price levels. They were the first two people I told...so they are in on the planning of this from the VERY VERY beginning. I know that there will be time to talk and change plans and ideas. But I wanted to give them as much time to save and plan....

Elizabeth, while I don't think you should plan your own party, that is besides the point. Definitely ask them each separately and privately! I'm in a wedding in June. The bachelorette party was planned without asking what people can afford. I'm being asked for $700 for a weekend. The planner is expecting the money from everyone who said yes to the weekend (when dates were being asked). I'm going to find a way to do it because I can't imagine not being there, but honestly, it sucks. I wish I would have been asked if I could do it.

The all inclusive may be your best bet. At least there won't be the extra cost of food and drinks. That expense adds up quickly.

With South Beach, you're going to end up paying big bucks for every little extra. Its going to add up FAST, and be a lot more expensive than it may intially appear.

Cancun is my vote, assuming everyone you're inviting has a passport. Otherwise, thats another expense that equals more time and money. However, like others have said -- the exchange rate makes it seriously dirt cheap for what you get.