Destination Bachelorette Party

I think the bride should pay for her airfare and hotel in a destination bachelorette.

Who decided that it should be a destination and not a local party? If the bridesmaids decided this I can see why she would assume it would be taken care of. If she pushed this hard, then this is totally on her. Either way if no one can afford to shoulder this it's on her. And To be honest I think the destination parties have gotten way too out of control and that the bride should always pay her way.

We planned a destination bachelorette for my friends however it will still be accessible by car so she was provided a ride but paid for her hotel portion. I think its nice to cover their expense but sometimes its not possible. My friend was not offended to have to pay for the room. I would be fine paying my way because the girls have already done so much.

IMO the bride should 100% pay for her flight, not just "chip in" on it. As far as the hotel, I've seen that go both ways. I offered to pay for my part of the lodging at my bachelorette but was turned down by my friends. One should never assume that others are going to pay for you, that's just inconsiderate (at the very least).

I think bride pays for flight and lodging

If the bride wants a destination trip then I feel like she should pay for transportation and hotels, otherwise that's potentially a lot of money for others to cover. The guests could still cover the cost of meals and other activities that aren't big ticket items.

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100% agree

Did the bridesmaids decide on destination? Did the bride? Is everyone able to afford the destination party?

The bride needs to pay for all of her travel expenses, not just "chip in". The only thing she shouldn't pay for is the "official" celebratory night out, and any party favors the bridesmaids want to get, like a sash, tiara, penis straws, etc...

I went to a Vegas bachelorette and the bride paid for herself for everything except one fancy dinner out and one day club cabana rental. But her flight, hotel, breakfasts, lunches, drinks at the pool, etc... she paid for all that herself, and didn't expect otherwise.

ETA and none of these expenses should fall solely on the MOH. Every attendee should be chipping in their fair share for dinner, drinks, etc...

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I thought so too!!!

The bride chose the destination but told her MOH that she (the bride) should not pay for anything because it's her party, therefor her MOH is paying for her flight and everyone is splitting the lodging.

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And that is where "bridezilla" starts. The bride should not demand what is thrown in her honor. She should be gracious for what her friends/family plan for her - based on what they can afford to plan for her. Did the MOH (and possibly other bridesmaids) try talking to her about what they can and can't afford?

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That's just crazy!! And soooo not the MOH's responsibility!! Are you in this wedding party too and/or invited to the bach?

ETA if I were that MOH I'd be letting the bride know that her flight is her wedding gift, and not to expect anything else. smh.

Yikes! I definitely think that the bride should always cover their own plane flight!

For accommodations it all depends on what your friends typically do, but demanding that someone else foot the bill is never a good look!

I was a BM in one of my best friends wedding and her and the MOH decided to do a destination bachelorette in miami. the bride 100% paid for everything with her flight, we ALL split the lodging, including her.. the only thing we made sure we covered for her were drinks when we went out.

I'm having a destination bachelorette to New Orleans, and I'm playing for my own flights and accommodations.

My MOH (sister) Isn't letting me pay for lodging but I will buy my plane ticket. I also want to buy my bridesmaids personalized drink cups and toiletries since they will be flying from the East to West coast for the bachelorette. California was one of my bridesmaids ideas and I was surprised everyone was ok with it. I want this to be fun for them as well as me so I want to spoil them as a thank you for everything they have been/will be doing.

This is so situational. It really depends on the people going/planning it. But it is not in good fashion to assume someone is going to pay for you.

View Quoted Comment I’m one of the MOH’s! Was trying to be discreet in case i had bad luck and she came across this post 😂

Myself and the other MOH talked about it and decided to bite the bullet, although we both agree on this topic.