I found the love of my life and we are planning our wedding for 2023. Everyone from my family was excited to have a DW to Nepal since the groom's family is there. It has been non stop conversations about it and what the wedding will entail (I come from a catholic background but my fiance comes from a Krishna conscious/sanatana Dharma background.. which hindu traditions stem from)
But now we are talking about a date. My parents and aunt/uncle will not allow my closest cousins and brothers to attend the Wedding If it isn't a summer month or when there is an extended break. The problem is if, we have it during the summer.. its 100% monsoon season. It will rain/storm the entire time and if we have it in december it will be just as cold because we are in the mountians. We thought about the option of having it in US but then NONE of my grooms family except for his parents and two sisters could come. That is not right to me.. with that being said.. i am having a hard time knowing that my fiance and I will probably pick a date that is during the school time and to not have my little brothers with me breaks my heart.
I have Two brothers who will be in college- 1 will be a junior (pre med- sport medicine) and the other will be a freshman undecided of what he wants to do.
My two cousins- 1 will be a college senior in business and the other will be a junior in highschool.
This wedding won't happen for 14+ months so there is enough time to discuss with teachers what options they have to see if they truly cannot make the wedding. But my parents and aunt/uncle are not even open to seeing if there is a possibility.
Ultimately, school is important... i am 100% in support of my brothers and cousins getting a good education but i also know from experience that schools can be accomadating especially if there is enough time in between to plan out the logistics. I just wish my family was more open minded to see if it is a realistic possibility and if it isn't then that's fine.. but atleast I can say they tried. At the end of the day, it seems that I am not worth it for them to atleast try.
I have to Learn to be okay with this as having DW, there will be risks of people not being able to travel (costs, school, health. Etc). I get this 100%
How have you dealt with close family not being able to attend?
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