Destination wedding- guest travel cost

I would not ask your guests to cover that cost. Plus, how will you control who stays? First come, first served? That seems weird, then you'd have a random assortment of people all staying in close quarters. I would pay for the entire house and invite your VIPs to stay with you.

Just give them the info for the hotel. You and the groom should cover the cost of the beach house since you're renting it out for yourself.

Definitely do not ask to help pay for part of the beach house. That's so rude. My best friends FSIL did that for her wedding last year and it left an awful taste in everyone's mouth.

Invite your VIPs to stay with you if you want and give the rest the hotel info.

What they said--also---do you really want to be sharing a house (and walls) with your friends and family on your wedding night? Don't you want some, um, privacy?

Well I was thinking it would be fun for the wedding party mainly (we never get to see each other so it's an excuse for a vacation for everyone). The night of the wedding, the groom and I would get our own hotel room.

I am also having a destination wedding. We also are renting out a beach house. We offered the house to the wedding party plus more. We searched for hotels and got quotes for them. The house sleeps 26 people and we are having about 20 people stay in the house. They are covering their costs for their rooms. I didn't feel that it was rude at all. My thoughts were we are staying for 5 nights and its roughing $250 per person- a hotel room in the same area that we are getting married is $200+ per NIGHT so we had everyone wanting to chip in on the beach house. We had everyone put a nonrefundable down payment (before we actually booked the house) to see who all was really committed. Once we collected that we booked the beach house. & we are making everyone pay another $100 in September and then the final amount ($50) in Feb. ((wedding in April) this assured us that people were being serious and so we didn't get stuck with a huge bill. Nobody thought it was rude. They all liked the idea. Plus, we actually get to spend time with all of our close friends & family.

I'm doing exactly what NikkiH is doing as well. It was cheaper for guests to stay at the house then a hotel, for sure. It's a small wedding with just our immediate family and a few friends.

If you're renting the house regardless I don't think it's cool to ask them to pay.

If I could afford to rent the house and not ask them to pay, I would! I'm realizing it's extremely hard to find any beach houses that allow less than a weeks stay in the summer- making it expensive.

Just trying to get ideas of the way to do it and my wedding party seem super into and excited.

I'm sensing an attitude.........

Everyone before me said that you and your FH should pay for it.

If you can't afford to do it alone, then figure out another plan.

Talk to your VIP's about it. That means parents, wedding party and siblings. Do this way in advance and collect money before the actual check in so that you are not running around and having issues on the most important day!

Other than that do not try to have random guests pay for the house!

I really don't think this is rude and if I were a BP member I would be glad to go in on a rental house to save some money if it were more cost effective than a hotel room.

You asked if it was rude and were given an answer. Yes, it's rude. Generally speaking if you have to ask if something is rude it is rude.

Also be prepared for people to say no. You can't rent it and tell people this is the plan. You can't tell the bridal party they have to stay there.

I'd rather stay in a hotel or AirBNB, even if it costs me more, because it means I would have my own space, not have anyone's kids around, and could go to bed and wake up when I wanted. Although I would visit the party house to, well, party.

Also make sure the person renting the house knows it's going to be an assortment of people. Is just your name on the lease or everyone staying there? If it;s just your name you're liable for any damage done to the house.

FOr my stepsis wedding, we did something similar since it was a small destination wedding to the keys. The beach houses weren't huge, more like slept 7-8 people so we rented 3 for mostly family members (parents of bride and groom, siblings of bride and groom and their SOs) and I believe some friends of them rented a house as well. Bride and groom were in a different suite, but we all paid for our stays and costs. One of the perks was that we all brought food and drinks and snacks for the stay so we didnt spend a lot of money eating out. Not sure if this helps.

Definitely, thank you! Yeah, I've ran it by almost the whole BP and they all seem very excited.

This is a very small wedding, so it's mainly just the wedding party and close family who will be attending.

I'm planning a very laid back "backyard" type wedding. Beach in the morning, wedding in ye afternoon and everyone parties and hangs out the rest of the night/week.

Planning a destination wedding myself I find that people expect you to pay for things that would make you be so broke and in any normal situation, would never expect. I think it's not rude if you are giving them the option and you are being respectful and courteous about it. That being said, I personally would never want to share the same house. I have done this for a wedding exactly the way you described and it was a miserable experience. There were so many people of different maturity levels and all I wanted to do at 1am was sleep and people were wasted and being obnoxious. I got zero sleep and roils never ever do that again. People are so different and expecting them to share a house successfully can be really tough. Seriously, avoid the stress. Also, do you really want to be in charge of collecting money? What happens if someone doesn't pay? Not a fun situation. I say avoid it but not because I think it's rude.

Would not roils* sorry autocorrect!

Oh and ps: think about any damage costs. One person in the house we stayed at was so wasted they damaged the fence to the pool. Another crappy situation of who pays for that bc your name is on the rental agreement and not theirs. Obviously I don't think you should responsible for stuff like that, but boy is it awkward when the person who did the damage just thinks it's funny

I've done this as a bridesmaid a few times for weddings and it has never bothered me! However, normally the house is cheaper than the other accommodations options and it's never mandatory

Would this rental house be cheaper for your wedding party then if they individually stayed in hotels? I'd ask your wedding party to get a casual feel for their plans, where they were planning to stay, and for how many nights