Destination Wedding: Some of my guests want to stay at a different Hotel

I wouldn't take it so personally there could be many reasons they chose another place to stay: budget, they could earn points or have points to use at another property etc.

I wouldn't take it personally either, or that the hotel isn't good enough. They may have a variety of reasons that they are choosing to stay elsewhere. How much time are you really planning on spending at the hotel, besides your reception? It won't matter where they stay at the end of the day.

We have guests staying all over the island, but we are only providing transportation from the "central location" which is where the reception is being held.

I wouldn't care, like the other ladies said, there's various reasons they may stay elsewhere such as budget, etc. Don't take it personally. And you have a while until your wedding, they can always choose to change and stay at the hotel you've chosen. No biggie.

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Angelina and Amy, yes you are right they could have found a cheaper place to stay. There is a $50 day fee/per person for them to come to the actual wedding day. Other than that they are not allowed to come into the resort. So it seems they will be a little secluded from the rest of the guests.

Meg, my ex's brother got married in Mexico and we stayed at a different hotel from everyone else. It was so much cheaper that even paying the fee to get in was no biggie in comparison. We were actually able to walk along the beach and meet them on the beach of their hotel without having to enter through the front too!

People who travel usually have very particular preferences about where they would like to stay. They may have found a lower rate, or they may prefer a better hotel. Maybe they're getting points/rewards in the resort next door. In any event, where they prefer to sleep really has nothing to do with you or your wedding.

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Not an issue. Just be happy they are going to spend their vacation money travelling for your wedding.

Maybe they don't want to feel obliged to hang out with other family members all week. I assure you it has nothing to do with you or they wouldn't be coming to the wedding.

I definitely wouldn't worry about it! Bottomline, they're flying to MEXICO for YOUR wedding... Who cares where they sleep at night?

Maybe they want to combine your wedding with their vacation and don't want to feel obligated to be with the other people staying at the hotel you reserved. I wouldn't take it personally.

Thanks Mrs. S! --I don't expect them to spend anytime with my family, but that doesn't mean that they won't feel obligated.

I'll try not to take it personally. Thanks everyone for your responses!

Dear Meg, I'm sure you managed to find a right way through to keep all your guests (and you!) satisfied. Anyway don't take it personal.

I'm a destination wedding planner in Croatia and that's an issue on some of weddings I organize in Dubrovnik. When it comes to the accommodation I always instruct my brides to provide for their guests some alternatives (probably 10-20% of guests will really need that). There are often people with much higher needs for a very comfortable accommodation, while there are some other travelling on budget, etc. Usually the hotel that is booked for guests is a 4* place which in Dubrovnik means: a really decent accommodation. As an alternative a recommended 5* place is suggested (for those with deeper pockets) + self-catering apartments (for those on budget).