Devastated and confused

First off im so sorry and i hope you can get all yhe help you need i myself have ssi and im about to be married in two weeks i ant letting thay stop me but i am also not in your shoes my advice for you is to call anyone and everyone you can and get all the information you need being on ssi honestly and truthfuly sucks theres is only so much you can do like only work a part time job and yes when you get married they want to know everything about your spouses income its crazy but true i dont if every state is different or not but as long as your spouse dont make above $2,000 they wont take alot from your cheak and as long as you get something you will have your benefits i hope that helps and also you can call medicate and ask them qustions they can also be helpful with your benefits

Yes, SSI does take in the whole household income when you are married. And if you receive medicaid or government assisted health insurance or payment of medical bills, which will be high long term, The spouse and you have to pay all insurance and medical bills until as a couple you are at poverty level, before the gov medicaid will kick in.
I am so sorry to hear this. There is much better treatment now than even a few years ago. And youay have times when you can work while stable. But until we have a public one payer health system, all of us with long term health issues are screwed. 🙂 I found lots of good details to know from the social workers for my illness. For example, if before you marry, hubby has little cash on hand, has a mortgage, taxes to pay, those things are protected from being taken for bills, or used to figure in your available funds. But if you are renting, you go down to
1,300 each that you have protected, making it hard to buy or save up for anything if a medical bill sweeps it away. So how is money is situated makes a big difference. Stock and annuities they expect you to sell. Equity in the house, will protect his money and allow you to have the full $775 DSI a month. ( close estimate) . So find out how to structure things, before marrying.

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No problem babes!

You need to do a lot more research and better understand your rights and the financial pros and cons of being married. Marriage is a legal status, a wedding is an event. Those two often go hand in hand but they are not the same at all, and one can happen without the other.

If you marry, both of your incomes are factored into your household. If your spouse makes $20k a year, it's not going to matter because your overall household income is so low. If they make $150k a year, its possible that the government will decide that your spouse can help support you and will give you less for some benefits, but I don't know how that factors into disability insurance/payments vs just being unemployed, so that is a question to ask a social worker or lawyer.

There are other protections that come with being a married couple that could be very worthwhile if you, especially if you decide you want children. I think its wise that you are considering how the legal implications of marriage will impact your ability to receive healthcare and other benefits, but I would seek advice from a professional experienced in dealing with these issues, not a bunch of brides on the internet.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I have definitely been looking into a lot of options and things that can help or aren’t worth going for. It’s hard trying to figure out all this stuff but i have some time still to decide on everything. It’s just really a big let down to have to go through.

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Yes that is A LOT to take in. I would definitely get some professional advice - a lawyer, social worker, or medical disabilities expert local to your area should be able to help and best provide you with advice and support. Best of luck to you!