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Oh gosh that's a lot of stress and loss. Deep breaths it seems like none of this is stuff is anything you can actually change so try not to put too much energy into it. In moments like what you are going thru I like to be cheesy and write down all the things that are going right and all the things I am grateful for, try to focus on the good stuff. The biggest positive in 15 days you ll be married to your love!!!! YAY!!!! Sending you hugs. Sorry you have to deal with this, especially now.

Hope it helps, take extra gentle care of yourself right now. Surround yourself with love and try to have as many joyful moments as you can. For me as much as I don't love it a good workout session is always a good stress reliever too. You can't control people's actions only your reactions to them and honestly if anyone is going to regret this it ll be him and he'll have to live it. You go and have yourself the best time. *hugs to you*

That sounds like a good plan a good workout always feels so good afterwards. Another thing you can do is allow yourself to feel your feelings for an evening relax and write a letter to your dad (not to send to him this is an exercise purely for you) write out everything you feel and wish you could say to him no matter how harsh it is, when finished burn it, rip it, delete it- get rid of it however you want and try to focus on you and healing do your best to give him no more of your energy. For me writing it out is cathartic and then physically getting rid of the letter is the first step of letting those feelings and emotions go. Don't hold onto them the only person that hurts is yourself. It is so sad this happened when it did but just try to remember this is a him issue and not a you issue. Feel the love everyone else is sending you. Best of luck to you and enjoy this sweet time in your life the best you can.

Good morning. This is my first time ever on this site, and I saw your post. First of all, I'm really sorry for the situation, but life is a moving target. Plus, when you over-plan anything, especially a wedding, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. This is YOUR day. Nothing else matters. At this point, just let go and ENJOY this time. I attended my cousin's wedding in December and there were so many non-traditional things - small things - she did that just wowed everyone. Let your mom walk you down the aisle. That's wonderful! And for the father-daughter dance, just skip it. No one will notice! Trust me. It's all happening the way it's supposed to. -Bill

Hello! My dad will not be present for my wedding and my mom will be walking me down the isle. So of course wont have a daughter/ father dance. A bit sad when you think about it BUT this is YOUR day! Celebrate with the people who are their to celebrate you. I know the last minute changes are stressful but I'd try my best to move forward with the people who want to be there. MOMS ROCK

I'm so sorry that your dad can't seem to make things about you instead of about him. This sounds harsh, but it sounds like the trash has taken itself out.

I've never even heard of a restraining order spanning that many years.

Like others have said, focus on the positive here, because I'm sure you're going to have an amazing day.