Devastated

I get married in 14 days… I need to vent and I need support. My grandmother passed away 2/7/2022, a bridesmaid/cousin can’t come to the wedding and then this….

I don’t know if my dad and little brother will be attending the wedding due to an issue he has with my mom - with whom he’s been divorced with for 18 years. I don’t know if my dad will be walking me down the aisle or if I will have a father daughter dance - I don’t know if he even deserves either of the two.
My mom recently got a permanent restraining order dropped that my dad had against for 18 years. My mom is not a violent person, she has never been in trouble, and she’s never even had any kind of ticket - but my dad used his position in law enforcement and my moms emotional state of being heart broken as a way to convince the judge to put one against her.
It is all about control and making it about him. I am devastated that my dad chooses my wedding day to not be present and to destroy my memories of wedding planning. I need to find ways to let go and cope. I need to move forward in my life without him. He has blocked my phone number and deleted me off of Facebook. The amount of selfishness he has to do this to me is unforgivable.