Did anyone send out an email as you get closer to the wedding?

I don't think that's weird at all! Better to cover your bases now, than to be stressed out on your day. I would make sure that you reach out in a way that people will be sure to see it and respond if need be. I know that many people may not check email often, or facebook/social media if you post on there. It might take longer, but calling or texting on person from each household might be most efficient/effective.

I haven't done this yet, but it's exactly the kind of thing I would do. I would feel horrible if I had a vegetarian guest who didn't choose that option ahead of time, then had no meal they could eat once they got there.

I totally get that the guests have had plenty of opportunity and reminders beforehand so this shouldn't happen. I also know that very few people in this world are detail oriented, and many would just skim right over that part of the website. It would be their own fault if they showed up and all there was to eat was chicken or steak.

But at the same time, I'd rather know I did everything I could to make sure everyone was considered ahead of time. Then, if you send out that email/text reminder about the veg meals or food allergies, as well as the start time, and there are still people who fall through the cracks, either arriving late (locked out) or not having their preferred meal available, then you know you've done all you could do for your guests.

So, no, not weird at all to do that from my point of view. But once you've done that, let it go. Everyone is adults, and they can fend for themselves. Don't stress anymore about it.

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Thanks for the validation! It's super annoying to have to reach out to everyone individually (if only people would read the website that I spent hours making!) but I'd rather clear things up now than have potential disasters on the wedding day.

And yeah I was thinking I would text my friends, FH would text his, and then I would email my mom's friends.

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Thank you! Yeah I really don't want to have to stress about these things which is why I feel like sending something out would clear my conscience a bit... this way I've done everything I possibly can to ensure they don't miss the ceremony and will get to eat... if they can't read the website AND can't read/respond to my texts or emails, then I won't feel as bad I just wasn't sure if this would come off weird to some people to receive a message like this!

I've never seen this done, and personally would find it a bit "overkill" from the guests' perspective. I understand your worries though. You know your crowd better than anyone, so ultimately it'd be your call.

I think it's great to send one last email. You'll feel at ease knowing you did everything, and that you did the right thing.
Many people don't look at wedding websites, it's still a really new thing, I am the only person I know with one, I would not put pressing information on the website.
As someone with food allergy I'd be really glad to know someone took that seriously during planning to get a check up email.
And with time in invitations it's a whole can of worms, nothing is consistent and honestly I don't believe there's ettiquite for it. I've heard put up to half an hour early on invites or start half an hour late. All you can do is send an email and hope everyone shows up on time, emphasize you'll be locking the doors at noon exactly so everyone's aware.

So... I'm mean. Because if you didnt choose vegetarian for my wedding, you're not getting a vegetarian meal.

Actually, to be quite honest, we aren't asking for a meal preference or allergies. If they dont like/cant what what we serve, go get something else. (I say this as a super picky eater who has gone to a reception, saw what they were serving, and ducked out for 15 minutes to hit up a drive thru.)

As someone who is constantly late to everything, including my own birth, even I know to show up before the listed time on the invitation and find it rude when people show up late.

I think you're overthinking this and trying to be too accommodating. You've given everyone the information, they need to use it appropriately.

View Quoted Comment I'm on the mean train also. Sorry you're an adult and should be responsible enough to RSVP and notify the couple for you're a vegetarian. We aren't offering meal selections either. You get both entrees and if you don't like them then you shall go hungry. I know this isn't the norm but I don't care.

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Agree with this

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I totally agree. I know I would go to the website and look at every page and read all the info and use it as a reference for all the wedding details, but I know that many people aren't like that or don't have access to it, and may need a little reminder or a little help.

I think that since you need to know ahead of time if someone needs a vegetarian option, you should send out an email/ text and then maybe a reminder that the ceremony starts at 12 and once the doors are closed, there will be no entry until the reception.

Good idea especially if you don’t have that big of a guest list. I’m sending an email out this summer (about six months out) to my out of town guests. Many of them have never traveled to the city where we will be married.

1. I think it's on guests if they have meal requirements, to reach out to the bride and groom. Not vice versa.

2. Again, it's on the guests to be on time.

I probably wouldn't send an email, but if a bride emailed me once I wouldn't care.

I have to side with the mean people. This information was written in multiple places. I am not holding adults' hands. As someone with a food allergy, I know to inform people of it, even when not prompted. If people get shut out of the ceremony or go hungry, sucks for them. Your responsibility is to provide written documentation. Theirs is to read it. End of story.

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Partially agreeing with this! We are having a buffet that has chicken, alaskan cod, and roast beef. There is a salad, bread/butter, and mashed potatoes included in the buffet, so if anyone is vegetarian, they will just have to eat all the "sides".

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Thank you!! Our venue had lots of entree options but when we tried the Parmesan-crusted chicken and the Alaskan cod, we were HOOKED! We might be mean for not having a vegetarian option, but we were only allowed 3 total entrees and the price was going to be the same regardless of what we picked. So I'm not paying top dollar for some ravioli's that cost me the same as a meat entree. Lol.

As a guest I'd see it as a little overkill and micro-managing. I think the food thing is understandable, but I'm also mean (as pp stated, lol) and if you had multiple opportunites to see that message loud and clear then I'm sorry its not my fault you forgot to tell us. As for the timing, you already put the start time on the invites, if guests are shut out its not your fault.

I'd skip the email.

You seem really confident that everything will run on time and maybe you are the type of person who can pull that off, but I wouldn’t overemphasize the noon start anymore than you have. I think people should be on time, but most weddings I’ve been to have started late. People show up and they wait 45 minutes. I think guests should be willing to deal with that, but I do think you’re setting yourself up for some teasing/irritation if you make a fuss about when guests show up and then you run late. I am curious why you’re making it impossible for people to sneak in late - aren’t there seats in the back stragglers can slip into?

I don't think it's odd at all. Make sure to include a message of excitement about seeing them at the upcoming wedding. You may also become aware of any late stage "oh I thought I was coming but I'm actually not" people so if it's not too late you won't have to pay for that meal.