Did you argue with your parents or in-laws about wedding planning?

Nope nope nope!

My FMIL has been very hands-off, I'd have been thrilled to have her around more but my FILs have a TON going on right now so we haven't had many opportunities to talk wedding with them.

My mom is the most laid-back person ever. She's been wrangling the grandparents and a small amount of family drama for me, which has taken a HUGE load off of my shoulders.

YES. I’ll spare details... I initially typed it up and it just looked like something off of Maury... 🤦🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Lady me too OMG!!! Is she trying to control the whole thing and make outlandish requests?

Not guilty. At least not yet. Everyone's been very supportive and has only contributed ideas. My mom has only really shown that her tastes are different than mine and that's really not bad or difficult to overcome at all. Our moms have gotten along just fine, particularly with my mom inviting his mom to take on more "mother of the bride tasks" with her, as my FMIL only has her son. All told, everything's going better than expected.

Yes! And we still have a year and a half to go . My fiancé and I plan on paying for everything ourselves. I’ve been askin advice from my step mom and she argued or disagreed with almost everything I have told her. I’m st the point where I’m not going to talk about the wedding or ask her any advice unless I absolutely have to. My mother is dead so she is the only mother figure I have. This is really stressing me out

Yes... with my mom about having my siblings being in the wedding party. FH had already had everyone picked out and my brothers werent in it and she got mad. I have three brothers so that’s means we’d have eight if I had them in it and that’s too much for us. Anyways I told her they’d be ushers so she kind of dealt with it but she’s still isn’t too thrilled. Two brothers are my dads and one is my moms btw

Innocent, for now. I'm going to try to not pick a fight with my FMIL, but she is a very hands on control hungry person. I see conflict there at some point.

I wouldn't say that we were guilty, but our views about what is important to a wedding are very different.

View Quoted Comment That'd be the best possible outcome for me.

Yes. Even though she already has the larger share of the guest list to begin with, FMIL has been asking non-stop, every time we see her, whether we can continue to tack on friends of hers and friends of friends because she was invited to their weddings 20 years ago.

Now the problem is, we have a guest list of 150 and our caterer cannot accommodate for a buffet/food stations beyond that number. Also, I'm adopted, so we've had to take into account FH's family, my adopted and biological family as well as our friends and plus ones of the bridal party.

We're also paying for the majority of wedding so I don't understand the list of demands. In one phone conversation, she can go from informing us that FH's grandma was admitted to the hospital to asking whether anyone on my side of the family has backed out of attending so her friends can come....

Currently in...discussions...with my FMIL. UGH She things we need to invite her cousins and aunts and uncles that my FH has never even met. Her friends that FH hasn't seen in years. People who were offended they weren't invited to FH's cousin's wedding. People we don't know. She's didn't take no very well. It was strange to be given a list of 'must invites' when we're paying for the wedding ourselves and we didn't ask for a list.

My mom is absolutely fine and my parents! FIL don't like anything we're doing but no need to argue lol it's our wedding so we make the decisions

FH and I have fought with his mom non-stop and it is awful. She has even called my mom and fought with her!
We used to have a good relationship, but since we started to plan a wedding she has not been happy about anything!

Guilty a little. We had a heated discussion about the guest list but it didn't turn into a full blown argument.

Every day...

Not really. My mom has more ideas than I do 😂

I have to confess, I have argued with my parents over money. but it's not what you think, I really don't want them paying for my wedding. my fiance and I are both in our 30's and I feel like it's our responsibility. my father is insisting on handling at least the final venue payment, but I just don't feel right about it.

No, my mom has passed and my future MIL is so happy her son is getting married she is happy about everything, She was a bit salty about the ceremony not being in front of a Lutheran minister but she let it pass.

I don't talk about plans with people though - less room for comments.

Mostly my fmil a bit too much I’m marrying her only son who’s also the oldest she is in another state I’ve tried to have her be a part of everything as much as I can with her being far away but still isn’t enough.

So far not yet...hopefully it stays that way!