Did you argue with your parents or in-laws about wedding planning?

FIL's no not at all I have only gotten a few snide remarks from his father

My family on the other hand won't be happy until my wedding is a free party at the church! By free I mean they aren't paying for anything but think I should somehow manage to plan a party for my entire family (200+ people) for less than like $1000.

Décor?

Oh DIY!

DJ?

oh buy speakers and use a phone!

food?

here's the best part.... potluck!

(how do you do a rolling eyes emoji?)

Not at all. It was our wedding, we were paying for it and no one had any say so in what we decided. I did include our moms so they felt special.

My inlaws are actually angels throughout the wedding planning. His mom has helped so much with planning and is even throwing the bridal shower. My side, on the other hand, is a little bit difficult. I argued with my parents about the guest count, i wanted it to be more intimate but they want to invite more people. Eventually, i gave in and let them invite who they want because they're paying anyway and just to keep the peace.

My parent were a walk a in the park. they literally had little to zero input. they just let me handle everything. my mother in law on the other hand...... definitely changed our relationship

Thankfully not at all, because both MOB and MOG wanted nothing to do with the planning!

Yup. My mom was very pissy with me that we didn't start booking a venue for the date we told her we were aiming for. She had already booked a time share for that weekend without verifying with me first.

Innocent! My family has been great, and even if I don't agree with something my FMIL says, I just smile. Lol!

His parents dont' live here and have a very different concept of weddings. They might not even be able to attend due to immigration crack downs toward Latinx countries..but anywho, before I rant on about that....

My mom is helpful with ideas (and a professional interior designer) but is expecting unrealistic concepts out of our wedding budget. She's not getting too crazy. I just cry to my sister and she tells my aunt who tells my dad who ends up calming her down. LOL..Latinx families for ya haha!

View Quoted Comment OMG, same struggle in reverse. My mom is backwards! She wants us to go too all out and ridiculously extravagant. Like **** OVER budget. My mom is looney.
I wish you good luck!

Definitely! My mother wants me to do some traditions that I'm very uncomfortable with

My future mother in law has a problem with the price of my wedding dress (because I’ll “only wear it once”) , the fact that I want to get married in a church other than hers (oh well!), and when I said I don’t want any kids at the ceremony and reception other than the kids in it (all’s I can say about that is oh well because my family has more small children than hers and they are not complaining about getting sitters for the day). 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just can’t worry about all that, so I’m choosing not to.

My mom is excited, while my FMIL has not said a word about the engagement 🙁

Not guilty! My mom and step FMIL have been amazing so far with helping me plan (mostly my mom) and being so willing to help out with anything I need. FMIL on the other hand, the only thing we’ve talked about is the guest list and that’s fine with me. There was no argument with her (it was with FH, but that’s another story) but I know how she can get so I’m sticking with no pay, no say. Both our dads just sit back and don’t really chime in on anything.

I'm guilty of arguing with EVERYONE during the planning process. I'm very sure of what I don't want, so I haven't really been open to ideas that just don't make sense to me (like my FMIL suggesting we get married n January since "no one gets married then" and I telling her that I HATE the winter, therefore it's never going to be an option).

Oh yeah.

Mom threw a fit about the guest list multiple times. I couldn't do a whole lot of arguing because my parents are paying for the venue which also means they're paying for the food, but a lot of the stuff she was fighting against was rather unfair.

I'm currently rolling my eyes with my FFIL because he wants to get Red Cross out at the Indian ceremony and have people donate blood. His reasoning behind this isn't just helping people, he wants to be famous because "No one in America has done this before" and he wants to send an email to Donald and Melania Trump to make us famous. I'm really not a fan of this idea, but he's paying for the Indian ceremony so....whatever.

At this point, I don't care lol I just wanna get through the wedding.

Ohhhhhhh yeahhhhhhh. Well not really me but my FH and his mom had screaming matches over the wedding. And she has since not shown any interest with anything wedding related 🙄

Not guilty. We are paying and when they volunteered to help with something and then tried to change the whole thing, we decided since we didn't need their help we would cover it and do it the way we wanted.

Guilty! Only with my mom though. She's an extra kind of crazy. She started off with the whole oh it's your second wedding I hope at least we can come if you do it in a courthouse since you don't need the big wedding. Now she's trying to shove her broach and veil down my throat and wants to know every single detail. I want to keep some things to just me and FH. She is one of those my way is the only way and the best way so how dare you not do what I say types. I almost made her cry when I said no to one of her demands. She's SO dramatic.

Back story on the crying thing...I swear I'm not a bridezilla lol. I agreed to wear one of her necklaces as my something borrowed. She let me see a double strand of pearls that were my great grandmothers. I was relieved because they were perfect for me and I really don't like any of the necklaces I've ever seen her wear. She puts that aside and whips out her broach that is also a necklace. It's amber and HUGE with an etched cameo. It is super heavy. I let her put it on me and it stuck out like a sore thumb. I hate the color orange and always have. It was literally hurting me having it on because it's so heavy and I get very sensitive to heavy jewelry. She thought I was being dramatic but sometimes I even have to take off my watch because the weight starts to hurt. So she starts tearing up when I say there's no way I can wear that. She goes on with the story of why it's "so special" she demanded that my dad bought it for her because the cameo necklace that was her mothers and she wanted was given to the oldest daughter. My mom is the youngest daughter of 5 girls. No way was she ever getting it. So she was so bitter she demanded one of her own. That makes me not want to wear it that much more. She STILL a month later was giving me guilt about the necklace. So now I'm going to pin it on my bouquet because I can't handle arguing about how I am not wearing it.

Nope but they aren't paying for it we are.

Mostly with his mom. They just planned his sister's wedding two years ago and she wants everything to be similar even though I'm a VERY different bride.