Did you argue with your parents or in-laws about wedding planning?

My parents not guilty however my in laws are being the biggest pain about every aspect of the wedding so with them I'm very Guilty!

Not yet...but I'm kind of waiting with held breath for my FFIL to hit us with something, FMIL is SUPER chill and a WONDERFUL woman lol and my parents are both of the mindset that since they aren't paying, they don't have a say in anything (My dad actually said to me "No Pay No Say" when I voiced my concern about FFIL lol gotta love my Dad!)

See my FFIL is the kind of person that got upset with us for not meeting up with and taking HIS friend when we were on vacation in Montana recently, neither FH or myself had EVER met this man and didn't want to take someone we didn't know to dinner just because this guy was friends with FFIL (who was back home in Missouri btw, not on vacation with us). So I'm just WAITING to see who he says we HAVE to invite...even though he isn't paying for anything (and we've already said that we aren't taking any money from anyone so that they can't demand what we have to do)

No, i didn't.
I totally ignored her (i talked with her about everything else that wedding).. not because i didn't like her or i didn't want her opinion.. just i knew that if i have one more person who i have to listen then there will be no wedding.
Luckily she was okei with that

Not guilty i dont ask my in laws for advice and my mom says whatwver u want

They can't argue with me or FH because they aren't financially helping us! We decide what we want to do, and that's that! The only one I can really imagine trying to say something negative is FMIL, but that's because she's just like that. Luckily for me, and unlucky for her, I'm not a push over and do not like my toes stepped on, especially by her.

The first time when planning, yes. Well, not so much arguing, more of being told who was not doing what and how it was going to be, so cancelled. This time planning, no, doing it all myself and not asking or allowing feedback to ruin anything.

Mother-in-law gave a bit of a hard when we were deciding on church or venue for the ceremony. But nothing bad she just seemed very disappointed if we didnt do the church.

Argued with my mother horribly when she first found out because we had differing venue/date ideas, haven't argued with my in-laws yet but I have 598 days for it to happen LOL.

Yes, MIL thought the wedding was her family reunion. It was rough to say the least.

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Please tell me more! I'm navigating something similar. How did you pick an officiant?

Right off the bat when we got engaged and said we’d pay for everything my mom became my wedding planner bff, we would sit and talk about things and she’d give suggestions and I would either praise them or erase them, lol. My mom has always been the whatever you decide Mom so we’ve had no issues. FMIL is a great person but she quickly wanted our wedding to have 300+ guests and everyone’s kids, that’s was a hard NO for FH and myself. We have chosen everything to fit our wants and needs and this just would not be an option. She actually told us that since we made decent money she wanted to invite a bunch of people to show us off, I don’t want that and neither does her son and my FH. We shut it down, gave her no guestlist options since we’d be inviting immediate and close family and friends of ours. This behavior must be stopped as soon as possible, in a nice way of course.

I am still planning, but not yet. I don’t think I will.

Heck no! I’m innocent to the bone. I try not to tell them anything dealing with the wedding.

Not even engaged a little over a week already and my FMIL is already saying to me who she wants to have at the wedding. Her and her boyfriend work in the medical sector and always want to have lavish parties to impress important people and I'm putting my foot down and not having anyone there that both my fiance and I would mutually like to have there.

I'm starting to deal with this now. The day after we booked a venue my future FIL started with me. He was up visiting when we booked, so we took him to see the venue. After seeing the venue he wanted to see hotels nearby and there was only one (10 mins away from venue). He complained about it being too far from the venue. Then he said we have to make sure all the hotel rooms come with a fridge, because he doesn't want to use hotel ice. Just being a pain honestly. We just booked the venue, we were far from seeing hotels nearby and any other details he wanted a say in. I don't get why people can't be happy for us and let us take this day by day lol. Rant over

INNOCENT!! Neither of our parents are really involved in the planning process.