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Did you ever consider not having a bachelorette party?

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Alejandra, on October 21, 2019 at 2:19 PM

Hi all,
FH and I agreed we wouldn’t do bachelor/bachelorette parties. Neither of us love being the center of attention. Plus, with his groomsmen, I honestly don’t trust them to a) not take him to a strip club or b) bring a stripper to him. With my parents nasty divorce and some of the issues that went into it, strippers are an absolute no from me. I wouldn’t mind as much if he just looked at them, but if they’re going there or bringing one to him, I can’t imagine he wouldn’t get a lap dance. He’s okay with going with what makes me comfortable so we agree we wouldn’t have parties at all. I’m kind of considering that I want one, but I don’t want to be unfair. Would I be missing out a lot? How would I go about asking him to have one if he wants one after we agreed we wouldn’t? Thoughts? How did you deal with your FH/husband seeing strippers for his bachelor party?

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Dayna · on October 25, 2019 at 12:08 PM
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I get it, my sister and her husband got into a huge fight about this the week before his bachelor party. Why don't you do a joint party? You could all go out as a group to a bar or have a party at your house. A lot of people do it now. We are having separate parties, but all FH wants is to play video games and drink beer with his friends - which is fine with me!
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Blair · on October 25, 2019 at 12:13 PM
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I know more then likely my husband's bachelor party will have strippers or they'll take him to a strip club. I trust him though. I specifically asked my girls not to bring any to mine. I've seen male strips shows in the past and at this time in my life I'm just not interested. I plan to go to New Orleans with all my girls. Good food and drinks and plenty of girl talk.
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Sara · on October 25, 2019 at 12:40 PM
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I'm not having a bachelorette party. Don't want one don't need one. I will not regret it. I also don't like being the center of attention.

Your fh agreed to not having bachelorette/bachelor parties out of respect for you and your comfort..but now you want to have one anyway? If you don't want to be unfair..he should be able to have a party as well if you want to have one now. It would be very unfair of you to ask to have a party and still expect him not to have one.
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