Did you invite someone out of obligation?

Yes, but mostly just to avoid family drama. Can't exactly invite a whole family and leave out just one kid

Nope. When people put obligations, and I must do something for them/must do something out of appearance/avoid drama then I feel controlled. I feel anything they've done for me wasn't because they wanted to, but because they expected something in return. Those type of people aren't in my life. I don't have time for that, and don't play those games

100%

We really wanted our guest list to be ONLY those closest to us. When FILs started pitching in $$, so did their recommendations on the guest list. Not too happy, or proud, but we have to do what we have to do.

Yes! My 34 year old cousin has never been in a relationship for like his entire life. Then 4 months or so before my wedding, right before invites were going out, he finds himself a girl to date.

Etiquette states I had to invite her, so I did. I actually LOVE her - she's an absolute sweetheart and was the life of the party at my wedding. She's still around and has attended all other family parties since then, so I'm happy my wedding was sort of an icebreaker for her to meet our massive family haha.

I'm just going to plead guilty and leave it at that.

Guilty. Either because they invited me to there wedding or its family and i did to keep the peace

Sure did! My FH didn't want to invite some of his extended family without all. They are all super close and even though they are second and third cousins they grew up together so I gave in.

Guilty. Yes, I invited a few distant family members out of obligation, but was also able to cut a few and not let my family guilt me into inviting them.

Of course.
I don’t think there’s much getting around this. At the very least, there are people who are important to fH and not me, and vice versa

Yeah, or else people talk talk talk. I'm the type of person to not care. but my FH does so I had to do it to make him happy.

I would say no. Even the guest list from my parents was ok with me. Nobody on their list feels like an obligation. I will say, certain people will receive an invite out of respect, even though we know they can't make it.

Guilty, I wasn't going to invite this couple, but I did their wedding flowers, and someone mentioned to me (mutual friend) that they said "it's okay" that they didn't get a STD on FB invite, which was more for the out of state people, still sending out STD's in the mail SOON. So, I guess I felt obligated to invite them.

Yes. But don't expect them to travel.

100% yes. This might be bad but part of me hopes they show up and the other part is like stay away. I can't decide.

Yup on FH's side. I cut people off of my guest list to accommodate the people FH felt obligated to invite. FH was cutting his friends to make sure his parents family friends got on the list, I put a stop to this and made sure his friends that he really wanted their could be their. We included the family friends FH is closest to and keeps in contact with. FMIL and FH are not speaking after she found out a family friend or family member not in the family included wasn't invited. FH can't tell me the last time he has spoken to her and I've heard almost nothing of her.

My mom is already trying to tell me that we “have to” invite people to our wedding (that we will be paying for) when we don’t even know yet if we’re doing an actual wedding or eloping. We are talking very distant family members and even one person who sent an insulting letter along with the gift for our baby shower, since we obviously had the baby before getting married. 🙄 My mantra: “if you don’t pay, you don’t have a say.” Ridiculous that I was told that I “need” to cut my cousins, who I love, out of the guest list so that this letter-writer can make the cut.

Not Guilty! So proud of us for saying "we're inviting the people we love, we want to keep it small" and doing just that!

Haven't told my mom some people aren't invited yet though, so we'll see how that goes...

Yeah. But we have to. He's immediate family. But he's awful.

May I plead the fifth?

You know I did, for the peace of mind, I so need.

I'm a very indecisive person and as I am plus size I really wanted a dress that looked good on me and not just the hanger so I wanted the opinions of even those who are critical. No one was invited by obligation, I wanted then all there.