Did you invite someone out of obligation?

We are inviting a few people out of obligation on my FHs side. I dont know why and I'm not real happy about it. I honestly dont think that they will come either. They RSVPd to his daughter's sweet16 and didnt show up, so I told him, I bet they will do the same for the wedding, It'd be nice if they just didnt come and RSVPd regrets as well because people pay for those plates.

Unfortunately. My grandmother is paying for the venue so we've been letting her invite her sisters and what not.

Yes, at first it was just family friends out of obligation but once we started to get declines from other guests we have had some people ask if people we all commonly know if they are coming.

Prime example my sister has this really sweet best friend, I like her but I don't make an effort to hang out or spend time with her. After about 10 distant family members declined my sister asked if her best friend and family (husband and 2 girls) could be invited. And now they are sitting at a table together.

Innocent. Our guest list is tiny. If we do invite out of obligation it will be plus-ones

A few yes.

My dad is a pastor so most of the church people invited to the ceremony are out of obligation.

Absolutely not. I’m not inviting anyone I don’t want to.

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No. just no. you are in the right.

Yes, it was easier to invite then to store up drama

Guilty as charged

Guilty i sure did

Haven't sent out invites, of course, but... we were going to invite 80 people, and we were looking at the list and realized that more than half on the list, we really don't see and truly did not really want there. It wasn't our scene. We wanted the closest of the close, therefore, that is why we have a 35 guest count, and that's our absolute max, because our venue literally cannot accommodate over 35. Ever since we made the changes, we feel better. I don't care, if the only reason someone is sitting on my list is because I think that I NEED to invite them to avoid drama, then they really shouldn't be on my list.

I almost did, but I really thought about it and talked it over with my bestie, wedding planner, and my man and decided that I should cross them off the list. Yes, this will cause some drama absolutely, but I just want to be happy and having them there won't let me be.

Yes, to avoid drama

Yes!! But it’s not a big deal and I don’t want to have any family drama.

No, I’m innocent. It hasn’t been because of obligation. It was because of respectfulness.

INNOCENT!! I was thinking about it but then I was like NOPE! I'm not bowing down to anyone. Plus it's an elopement and that's something they're going to have to deal with that they can't come cause we have others we would rather have there. I did court house last time and they were salty that they weren't invited. Can't invite them now either because we're only allowed 10 people (including vendors) and they're a party of 6 to begin with. No thanks.

Absolutely not. If we're not close to someone, they dont get an invite. Period. We're not paying a ton of money for random folks.