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Libby
Dedicated June 2019

Did you know Bridesmaidzilla exists?

Libby, on May 31, 2019 at 8:43 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 28
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Because I sure as heck didn’t! Holy moly!

I had posted in the past about a drama creator and was on the fence about asking her to exist the wedding group. Well, it has happened. I never imagined hay I would actually have to kick someone out of my bridal party, because I’m not that kind of person. But I was recently put in a horrible situation that made it so I could only ask her to get lost - from the wedding and my life.

Now, I’m faced with a dilemma. This girl is bad mouthing me, which isn’t a huge concern because I know those who truly love and know me would not believe it for a millisecond. She has told me that I “have to” reimburse her for her bridesmaid dress and if I do not do so, she will be sending me to small claims court to deal with it.

After discussing all of this with future hubby, family and my close girlfriend, I’ve decided I will not. I do not feel that I am responsible for the cost of her dress as she put me in This situation where I had to ask her to leave.

What are all your thoughts on this? Ever been in this situation? I am flabbergasted!

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Latest activity by Libby, on June 3, 2019 at 9:17 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Unfortunately, it is usually expected that if you remove her from the bridal party, you reimburse her for the dress. You can keep it and see if you can give it to someone else.
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Wow. this isn't something I've dealt with but I have heard a lot of horror stories about friendships being ruined due to weddings and what not. I have had friends kick their bridesmaids out. I hope it works out in the end for you but sometimes you really do find out who is truly your friend from these kind of things.
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  • Nykole
    Expert October 2019
    Nykole ·
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    Pretty sure her ridiculous claim would not hold up in a court of law, since she voluntarily agreed to be a bridesmaid and pay for the usual things that come along with accepting that role. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this! That really blows and I couldn’t imagine having to deal with this BS and so close to the wedding. Try to focus on the positives and move on with your life. She’s more than likely bluffing just to see if you’ll cave. Don’t cave. She’ll probably get over it and never pursue legal action. Not that she has a case to begin with!
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  • Nykole
    Expert October 2019
    Nykole ·
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    I could see reimbursing her if she did nothing wrong, but since she was removed because of her own awful actions, then I say this bride owes her zilch!
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
    Lizbeth ·
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    This is tough I'm sorry you're going through all that.
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  • Kelly
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    Kelly ·
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    It won't hold up in court, there's no contract and even if verbal means anything in your state she'd be held responsible for the cost as bridesmaid. Screen shot any texts she sends you for your own ass covering.
    I clearly don't know the details but if you feel like she should not be reimbursed I'll trust your feeling
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Let her throw her hissy fit. You have more important things to worry about right now.
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    Sara ·
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    Curious to know what the dress cost because likely she’d be spending about the same or more to file a claim, which more than likely won’t hold up in court. I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Sounds like based on her actions she brought this on herself though. Hope things get better
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    Super July 2020
    D ·
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    If she gives back the dress you need to pay. Otherwise it's up to her to get her money from the store.
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  • Fwbride
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    Fwbride ·
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    What If she gives the dress back when OP doesn’t want the dress, does she still have to pay?
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  • Libby
    Dedicated June 2019
    Libby ·
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    So when picking out dresses, I told all the girls that they can pick whichever style they wanted - it just had to be a specific color. It was purchased from Davidson Bridal and they don’t take returns. She told me she didn’t want to give the dress to me, just wanted me to cover the expense of it.
    The dress she picked out was a Vera Wang style - $176.00.
    Unfortunately for her, she refuses to communicate in any form except for text messages. So I have all the proof of her verbal harassment and manipulation.
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  • Libby
    Dedicated June 2019
    Libby ·
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    Right! She’s been extremely dramatic about all of this. I have been very good about just ignoring her childish actions and focus on what matters.
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  • Libby
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    Libby ·
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    She is totally the kind of girl that would just try to push until I break, which is basically what happened to create this situation. I feel it was her attempt at getting out of the wedding party and now she’s trying to play the innocent one.
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  • Libby
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    Libby ·
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    $172.00! She had free choice to pick any style she wanted and went with a Vera Wang 🤷🏼‍♀️
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  • Vicky
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    Vicky ·
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    My thought is that you need to reimburse you for the dress. You asked her to be in your wedding, she bought the dress under that condition, you kicked her out of the wedding. Regardless of why you kicked her out of the wedding, you are the one who changed the agreement that necessitated her buying the dress. If she had dropped out of the wedding on her own accord you would not have needed to pay her back, but she didn't and you do.

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    Super July 2020
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    Yes. OP cant have have the dress for free when the other girl paid. The dress was specifically bought for OP's wedding and since she is no longer going to be attending at OP's request. But since the girl wants to keep the dress, no OP owes her nothing.

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  • Vicky
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    Vicky ·
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    True, I agree that the former bridesmaid doesn't get to be reimbursed and also keep the dress. OP should tell her that she will only reimburse her for the dress in exchange for the dress.

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  • MrsJohansson
    Expert June 2019
    MrsJohansson ·
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    Way too much drama... just offer to pay in exchange for the dress back. Maybe you are not legally obligated but sometimes you just gotta bite the bullet to keep the peace. Pay up, get the dress, move on.
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  • Libby
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    Libby ·
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    Hate to be harsh, but I most definitely won’t be paying to her dress. She’s been a horrible human to myself, family and friends and I won’t give her what she wants. She needs to learn a lesson in being an adult and making sacrifices.
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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    Don’t reimburse her. It’s going to end up costing her A LOT of money to go to small
    claims court so it will only hurt her in the end. Plus, it’s not like you had a contract that states you need to reimburse her, am I right ? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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