Did you married ladies stress most of your wedding day??

Awwwww! Sorry you had to go through that!

I don't remember if you made a post about it, but why did so many things go wrong? What would you have done different?

I'm sorry. And that BM is ridiculous.

I had plenty of stuff go wrong - my mom forgot to stay for photos after the ceremony, I and much of the wedding party had blazing hangovers, my dress was too tight leaving me with a rippling expanse of backfat, one of the BMs had a dramatic breakup with her boyfriend at the reception. But I was pretty much in IDGAF mode, because by then I'd done everything I could and it was out of my hands.

I think some brides can let go and laugh at the things that go wrong, and others get very upset.

In the end, you got married, and that makes a beautiful wedding. Can you think of other things that will be happy memories? How DH looked when you walked down the aisle? The smiles on your family's faces? A funny story? I'd hold on to those, and try to put the bad stuff out of your mind.

OMG that is awful, Im so sorry you had to deal with completely disorganized BMs. I haven't had mine yet, but I'm sure tons will go wrong. In fact I can't remember a single "back and married" post that didn't include a list, whether short or long, of things that went wrong.

At the end of the day you guys are married :-) and your photos will probably only remind you of the great parts. Eventually you'll appreciate the funny stories that come from the screw ups. That's how I'm hoping to see it.

:/ Have you gotten your pictures and/or videos back yet? Maybe you should hold out hope until you see those. They'll remind you of the good times I'm sure.

I'm sorry We spend all of our time and money and have such high expectations for our wedding. I completely understand the feeling of disappointment when everything doesn't go right. I had all kinds of things go wrong at mine: bug guts on my dress, cocktail hour food was skipped, officiant left without signing our license, my DOC was less than stellar and so on...

Sorry, I never answered your question. Nope. I didn't stress at all. I was so over it at that point. Whenever someone asked me a question I would just tell them that I didn't care and do whatever they liked. It may have went a little better if I kept track of things going on, but I didn't care about anything but drinking my wine and getting my hair, makeup done, and chain smoking-I did a lot of that...

But I'm sure there was so much that went right and try to focus on that. I know it's hard, right now! I was disappointed at first, but everyday I have more fond memories about it. I hope once all the emotions calm, you can look back and have happy thoughts

I didn't stress at all. We had a nice long breakfast at the hotel, I took like an hour long shower, hair and MUA came and we got ready then headed to the church. Best day of my life. I seriously had so much fun. It wa way better than I thought it would be. I'm sad I never get to do it again

So sorry that stress is a part of your memories of your wedding day. There were a few things that could have stressed me out, but I felt like I did a pretty good job of dealig\ng with them without getting myself worked up. On our wedding day, I woke up before my very early alarm and was able to go for a long run. It helped clear my head. There were some issues with my flowers, the groom cake topper was knocked off the cake, the bar wasn't set up right (etc.), but I am now able to laugh at the issues. They are now funny memories. I hope that the good parts of your day (you're married!!) heavily outweigh any negatives. And I hope that those negatives become funny moments for you...or you are able to forget them. You're married!!!

I was freakishly calm & stress-free, much to everyone's surprise. Nothing bothered me that day. I got pissed about a few things after the wedding though.

Like the others have said, try to focus on your good memories. The bad stuff will fade away.

I didn't stress either honestly

for those still planning, what would you have done differently if you could do it again?

Overall, the day was great. The biggest thing I stressed about the day of was the timing. It felt like there was so much to be done and we were following a schedule instead of really just enjoying everything that was happening.

so sorry! I panicked and put the fear of god in everyone the 2 days before the wedding so the morning-of I was pretty calm. But you married your dream man right?!

That’s so sad, yes it did happen with few of my friends where they were willing to make everything perfect but there are certain things that we regret that they should have been done this way then it would have been better, But what’s best according to me that stop over thinking about it because what is done can’t be undone.

1st congrats, you are a married lady now; yahoo!

I didn't stress about anything, I promised myself the day before during a snow storm that I wasn't going to stress. I was going to be happy & enjoy the pleasure of getting married & sharing it with my family & friends. I ran around like a maniac looking for our missing WP bouquets, found them & went back to the hotel to meet with my Glam Squad.

I truly believe that our state of mind creates our state of being. Stay positive, be positive.

My motto in life is don't sweat the small stuff, and no offense to anyone here, but wedding details are the small stuff in life.

Is it a little sucky that some people didn't follow through the way you hoped? Of Course! BUT- you are married...look forward, not back. And remember, WW loves to hear about vow renewals :-)

Enjoy your new marriage!

I was a little stressed because of timing of everyone getting ready and because my mom was stressed about everything and yelling at everyone all day, (flipped the hell out because my grandma who lives 6 hours away wanted to come say hi for 10 minutes the morning before the wedding) which was stressing me out. Not too bad though, and I had people to help. My brother was seating people for me and knew who to keep away from my mom. My cousin helped my mom make a list so she felt like everything was under control.

On the plus side, you're married! Try to focus on that, and maybe talk to some friends/family about what their favorite part of the day was so you can focus on the good better.

I didn't stress too much - only during hair! My girls all got there on time, boys did too, which I was really surprised about!!

The final result is that you married the man of your dreams.

I, like IGTBK, am planning to put the fear of GOD into the wedding party. My MOH is ALWAYS late so she will be with me the night before as the BM will be with FH. I can control her lateness that way. I am a stickler to timelines so I will want to make sure our timing is down to the second. Other than that, if all hell breaks loose at the reception, so be it. It will be a reception to remember and people will talk about it - good or bad. We cannot control everything!

Things went wrong, I stressed, but I still would call the day a good one. To be honest, a lot of the day is a blur, there was just so much happening at once and so quickly. When I looked at the video footage I looked a lot less stressed then I thought I looked for whatever that is worth.

I only had one small moment of stress & that was when the officiant still hadn't arrived at 4:30 and my ceremony was supposed to start at 5. My mom ended up lying to me and told me he was there at like 4:35. He made it there by 4:45.

Other than that, the whole day was stress free. Surprisingly, the entire wedding party showed up early, even the guys.