Did you regret planning a wedding different to what you originally envisioned?

We aren’t married yet. But, I’d be fine with it! Actually, ever since the new year, my mind has been inching closer to our Plan B. Like you, we postponed a full year (extending our engagement to nearly 3 years). Our venue is perfect and every detail of the wedding plan is so uniquely “Us”. But, I’m really thinking of completely scratching all of our plans now that our venue is only allowing 25% capacity. Given that, I’ve recently been in contact with a wedding planning company about the idea of having a very intimate wedding in Hawaii instead (20 guest max). So, we’ll make that decision next month.


I’m not worried about regret because, ultimately, we’re getting married!!! Additionally, ever since postponing, our COVID backup plan is to have an intimate wedding and then host a big vow renewal celebration at our 1-year anniversary with all of our original guests invited. So, for us, our current wedding plans AND our backup plan are both wins and exciting either way.
Definitely make the choice that you know you’ll be most comfortable with.

I’ve been married before- 1st time I was underage (did no planning) & the 2nd time was at the courthouse. Both times my heart wasn’t in it. My fiancé & I agreed we want a small intimate wedding so our guest list is around 90 (that # was cut from 250+). We want to remember all that will be there, making those memories. That’s our dream wedding... definitely don’t regret it.

I think this depends on how you truly feel deep down inside about going smaller than what you had envisioned.


My whole life I had planned to have a traditional big fancy wedding with 200 guests. At one of the beautiful venues in my state. I had this whole upscale wedding I wanted to have planned in my head. however now we are having a laid back low key casual wedding, 60 guests, and in our backyard with BBQ for dinner and lawn games.
Our wedding is in August and honestly I feel relieved and so much more happier with our new wedding plans. I can't wait for our wedding. I'm more excited about this wedding than I was about the fancy one.
I think it just depends on the person and what they want and truly need for it to be a perfect day. Some people still need that big fancy wedding and some people realized that its not what's important to them. Nothing wrong with either bride we all deserve our special day.

The garden ceremony sounds beautiful!! You could still have black tie and it can still be very chic! We changed from the traditional, grand wedding route (280 guests, cathedral church, ballroom- the whole bit) to family and a handful of friends (104 attended but I have a huge family). I don’t regret it at all. Saved us over $20,000 in the end, which is just nuts when I think back on it. I did bump up decor since the new list allowed me to get more elaborate. I was very excited about being able to do florals that with Plan A, wouldn’t have been able to afford. Good luck and can’t wait to find out what you decide ❤️

I Don't think I'll regret changing my plans to elope. We are saving tens of thousands of dollars and keeping everyone safe during the pandemic

I was in the same boat, had the same thoughts and did just what you suggested. I had planned a 250 person wedding in New Orleans and switched gears to a 20 person wedding in Florida (my home state). We did not postpone, and we kept our original date, even with the change in plans. I have ZERO regrets (and my stress level was much lower and my wallet is much happier too). My modified wedding was amazing, I splurged on some things I otherwise would not have, and those in attendance are still raving about my wedding. I would have never considered a small wedding outside of COVID — it forced my hand. That’s one positive thing that has come out of this dreadful pandemic — my modified wedding was my COVID rainbow.

We aren’t married yet, but we have definitely downsized due to covid and actually feel happier about our wedding. I guess I’ve also been using the more practical side of my brain as well and seeing more and more what truly matters and what I absolutely can’t compromise on. So my fh and I made sure to replan our downsized wedding with all of the must haves. Our parents, a nice venue, my dream dress, a photographer, my dad to walk me down the aisle, our personal wedding vows and our first dance and parent dances. Those were what we absolutely wanted and still have. So all of the changes to what was originally envisioned is honestly just in size of the guest list and use of masks. Everything else is just as we want it to be.

We decided to cut our list from 120 to 17 guests for our December wedding. We spent 1/4 of what we would have spent and still had a beautiful wedding that was intimate, fun and amazing. We’re married now and just so thankful for our smaller wedding day. We’re (hopefully) taking a very nice honeymoon in Fiji in September.

Before I started seriously wedding planning I always envisioned a huge extravagant wedding. However, in the early stages when I realized how much everything was going to cost we decided to scale it way back! My fiancé and I are paying for everything ourselves, but even if our families were to help we just couldn’t justify spending that much money on one day! So in only 64 days, I can’t believe it, we will be having a small wedding with only 50 of our closet friends and family at a winery. With a smaller guest count I think we are able to do more and stick within our budget.