Did Your SO Ask Your Parents For Their Blessing??

Would you have had any reservations if your SO hadn’t asked your parents for their blessing to marry you?

It wouldn't have made a difference to me, but it was important to him! I knew he was going to propose but the one thing I really had no clue about was that the week before, he set up a lunch with my mom to ask her and disabled our doorbell cam so I wouldn't see him leave (he was working from home, I was not). I thought it was funny and adorable.

How important to you is a relationship between your SO and your parents?

I've never really thought about it, but I guess it's important. I don't expect my FH to call my mom to chat, but I do want them to get along, and they do... sometimes I think she likes him more than she likes me! He also gets along really well with all of my sibs.

Do you consider your MIL/FIL/BIL/SIL to be your own?

To a degree. My FH is a Momma's boy through and through and at the end of the day they are his family so if it came down to it they will always be on his side, not mine. But I like them and we treat each other like family. I was only allowed to have 3 people come with me for wedding dress shopping so I picked my mom, my MOH, and his mom even though I could have brought anther friend instead if I'd wanted to.

I'm reading more through the comments and I'm fascinated by the amount of people here who detest the idea of asking the bride's parents first! I understand that it's maybe an outdated tradition and I certainly agree that in the 21st century it should not be a matter of the parents to "agreeing" to hand over their daughter like she's a piece of tupperware being loaned out for Thanksgiving leftovers. I guess I look at it as more a matter of the groom expressing respect for the people who raised the woman he hopes to marry. While I take zero issue with people who don't do it, and know that not everyone has a positive relationship with their parents, I still think it's a nice gesture personally.

I guess it is a cultural thing. I grew up in the South, and it was pretty common here. It would have been important for my dad to have my fiance ask his blessing. But I had an Australian friend in college who was freaked out by it, and thought it was super old fashioned and backward.

I personally think it's outdated and paternalistic - I'd been lout of my parents' house for nearly 10 years when FH proposed, and while I am close with my father we're both clear that my choices are mine alone. I've gotta be honest that a "blessing" would've annoyed me too - is he not going to propose if he doesn't get the blessing? But I realize that it is important to other people, so if that's your expectation, just make sure it gets communicated ahead of time because it's clear there is no universal right or wrong way to go about this.

For us, we'd been together for 6 years by the time we got engaged, had discussed the matter several times, and my parents both expressed impatience at the fact that it hadn't happened yet! I would have been fine with him giving my parents the heads-up on when it was going to happen, but as it was it was a surprise for all parties and that was okay too.