Did your wedding bring out some jealousy or 'funny' quirks in others?

I got engaged before my older sister did, so she was VERY jealous until she also got engaged. She's married now so everything is okay, but it was tense for a while.

I keep getting asked about the wedding by family members I'm not close to. It's as if everyone expects to be invited and it's really weird.

Also, since I've been engaged, people won't stop talking about us having kids. Neither of us are very open about not wanting kids, so it's quite annoying and invasive.

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I hear you on all that - it is so awkward with invitations and I feel like no one should ever make an assumption about being invited to a wedding because if someone asks about it and isn't going to be invited it is so awkward.

Uhhh and the kids thing! It is so uncomfortable for multiple reasons - what if you don't want children, haven't made up your mind, can't biologically have your own without difficulty or at all etc etc.

Hi yes I am going thru that with family and friends and especially from my daughter's because none of them are married yet. And I will be the first out of my daughters I have oldest son and he is married but the rest of my children. Its has been a whole lot of the yell the hurtful word s to crying. To almost all of my girls had quit of being in my wedding. And then after some months they want to return to there original role so they thought I had replace most of them with someone else. So they have been demoted it Now all of these ladies are my daughter's and 1 sister who is my bridal party. But once I had spoken to them and they told me there reasons I told them you should never be jealous or disrespectful because of someone else happiest. Now we are ok but I pray that my kids find them there person I told them that. Now we are all waiting for the bridal shower and bachelorette party weekend. I hope that everything on your end works it self out

The worst thing we've been dealing with is everyone but the parents of kids we're not inviting freaking out about the fact we're not inviting their kids. Like people who don't normally get rude with us have been acting crazy about this and it's not even their children.

We originally wanted no kids but had no good way to come up with a cut off, so we just ended up going with only inviting out to cousins and none of their kids can come (most are pretty young anyway). His mom has become OBSESSED with her nieces and nephews who she believes won't come because we didn't invite their kids and wanted us to only invite their kids so they would be slightly more likely to come. These are people who I've only met a handful of times in our 6+ years together and we know we won't ever talk to them again once his grandma on that side passes. If they can't come because we're not inviting their kids we won't be offended. Like we knew some people would have to say no because of it.

We also had his grandma on his other side send us a super rude and snarky email about how we don't understand that weddings are not adult only events because we don't have kids. And when you have children, any invitation parents may receive automatically include their children when it's a family event - aka weddings... no. The people she was offended on behalf of are so happy to have a weekend away from their kids and one cousin has been talking about how drunk he gets to be at our wedding since the kids won't be there.

Yea for sure this happened to me. I have a friend who considers me her best friend who acted so ugly during my wedding. Never mind she planned a shower and didn’t decorate or include any shower activities or a cake and was paid by me. She also left in the middle of the reception in haste because she was upset that she couldn’t give a planned speech. On the flip side so many of my friends and and family showed up in ways I never imagined. So I only had two casualties due to wedding envy.

OMG that is crazy that some of ur family members had to be hospitalized due to your decision! Haha thats definitely taking it to a whole other level! Also, I’d definitely distance myself from that “best friend” it’ll hurt but she definitely showed her true colors there. True friends would be super happy for your new milestone.


I definitely did not expect to get so many negative reactions after getting engaged! Haha I had no clue something so positive would make some people so mad haha I had relatives(not close) getting mad because they were not told I was getting engaged🤣 like girl I didn’t even know I was getting engaged that day either🤣 then relatives that aren’t at all close to me who I haven’t even talked to in years and who live in a whole different country and wouldn’t even be able to come to this country to attend the wedding were mad about not being invited🤦🏽‍♀️ How does that even make sense haha oooo and the one that surprised me most was my brother’s girlfriend🙃 she got extremely jealous and blocked me all over social media and she told my bro she was “upset” because I was living her dream. Then made up absurd lies about me which my brother didn’t believe which only made her even more mad. #toxic

The only thing that has happened so far for me was maybe coincidental. After I sent my save the dates out my brother called me and told me he was going to ask his gf to marry him. I was happy for him, but I was a little sad when he called me back and said they wanted to get marry the month before I do. I don't think jealousy is involved necessarily, I just think it was a timing issue, but it still kind of sucks that he has a wedding a month before mine. If I had known earlier, I would have probably planned mine farther out so as not to stress our family with two close weddings within a month time frame (we are the only siblings). But, what's done is done and the important thing is we are both happy in our relationships and in the wedding planning.

YES absolutely brings out the jealousy in others, and I'm honestly not sure why. I'm not sure why people can't just be happy for each other (no matter what, I feel like if someone is happy, then I'm happy for them- I want them to feel good!).

Everyone has taken their turns on me, from family to friends. I'm not sure what it is, but don't let it ruin your day. This is about YOUR love. And there are still people who ARE very happy to see you get married, so focus on that as best as you can!