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Hailie
Just Said Yes October 2021

Didn’t expect the planning loneliness

Hailie, on August 2, 2021 at 11:51 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6
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My fiancé and I met in DC but soon we moved to Omaha for his career in the military. We got engaged and I couldn’t be happier. We decided to have a small, outdoor ceremony in Charleston and then have a party afterwards with friends and family. I never wanted a huge wedding, and honestly I am great at planning events, so it didn’t bother me! Now that I’m going to my first fitting and finalizing details, I am a little sad I haven’t had anyone to come with me to appointments, make me feel a little special, and get a second opinion. I feel like I’m second guessing everything from my dress to vendors, and have an anxiety I never expected about looking beautiful on my wedding day. I felt at first relieved to go wedding dress shopping alone to really tune in to what I like, but now I feel like I rushed and picked the first dress that felt ok. I’m also not from Omaha and feel like there are limited places to shop for gowns where I’m usually used to a large city. I feel silly for the stress when I know I’m marrying the best man I’ve ever met and the day will be so fun. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has had this stress/sadness when planning a wedding alone away from friends and family. How did you cope?

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Latest activity by Jacks, on August 2, 2021 at 3:45 PM
  • Emilia
    Super June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Hi ! I'm so sorry you feel like that... But how about a video call while you're trying on dresses or choosing vendors ? I heard about that in my boutique ;-)

    And we are here too, to help you or advise ;-) Smiley xd

    I knew a friend who went to another country with her military husband, he went for a 1-year mission to Iraq, and she planned herself the wedding... in her home country ! That was really tricky, but they really had a great wedding.

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  • Chloe
    Devoted February 2022
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    I know exactly how you feel, we have moved to Europe and our close friends and family live all over the world. I just talk to my fiancé - I figured out that we both don't really care about silly traditions like him not knowing what dress I'm going to wear and so forth. I try not to overload him with colour palettes and he in turn keeps me from spiraling into Pinterest overload... Honestly, his is the only opinion I value anyway.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
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    I was in the military and then a spouse for 20 years. I often felt that loneliness for the big life moments. It can be hard.
    I don’t have any advice, but want you to know I understand.
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated August 2021
    Jessica ·
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    Aww, so sorry. I definitely feel for you & have been in the same boat, especially when we first got started with planning. My mom became very ill & was physically & mentally unavailable for the first 6 months of wedding planning. I had some Aunts that were able to remotely support me & answer questions here & there but I didn't have anyone else out here to physically do things with me.

    I actually had to have my dad come with me to my final dress fitting to take a video on how to bustle my dress so I could show my MOH once she arrives. I hated that because I really wanted to do a first look with my dad.

    I totally get where you are coming from. Yes, it's such an exciting time but I absolutely understand how hard it can get at times & how lonely it can feel. Especially when you have no idea where to start or what to do etc!

    Take breaks, treat yourself to a massage, I promise, it will all work out. We are 24 days away & the excitement is so REAL. You got this! Also, this forum helps a ton! We are always here for you! Smiley smile

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  • Hailie
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Hailie ·
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    Thanks for the positive feedback, ladies! I honestly have been feeling guilty for feeling this stress and loneliness when I know it’s not about the wedding but the person I’m marrying. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in these feelingsSmiley smile
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    For sure you're not alone! Come chat here, we love weddings!

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