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Just Said Yes November 2020

Diet since highschool

Kay, on June 22, 2019 at 1:12 PM Posted in Fitness and Health 0 5

Well you would think one was excited about there wedding coming up and all the planning I am in a way, it's just weight has always been a big focus in my family.

I have 6 Sisters and 3 brothers we our parents adopted all us girls. My Mom was a dancer for many years my Dad was a actor and dancer in plays as well. My Mom was always on a diet especially before shows she would only eat one meal a day for weeks and exercise often. My Dad would remind her when shows we're coming up and say things like you know you need to lose weight when he saw her eating. My Dad would work out almost every night. They checked their weight before bed and everything morning.

As I became a teen my Mom started telling me about my weight. My older sisters were on diets and watched everything they ate I was bigger than them by a little and it made me go on the same diet. Hunger was my friend but I was happy with that because when I was little I remember hearing my Mom's stomach growling at nights laying watching tv with her or in the car and her saying that's normal when you're an adult.

After I moved out I got tired of always being hungry and checking my weight twice a day and gained weight. Every time I see my parents my Mom says things how she can tell I'm not on a diet anymore and I should lose weight and stuff.

So I told my Sister's I was getting married Frist cause they are my bridesmaids. They started a who can lose more weight for there dress bet and are strict dieting. So my Mom's says you need to lose at least 20 pounds probably more but I will say 20 to be nice to look good in your dress to look like a woman should skinny in a dress every few days she texts me and ask how the diets going or invites me to go to the gym with her.

She was checking my fridge when she came over last week even though I never have a lot of food in it. My one sister texted me and was like I will be your diet partner, text me when you're hungry I help you. My Mom won't even try in mother of the bride dress until she loses weight she said. She is already skinny to me it's annoying.

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Latest activity by Jasmyn, on August 31, 2019 at 12:52 PM
  • Anna
    Super April 2020
    Anna ·
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    I will never understand this. My mom is like this too. She has been dieting all her life. I was big as a kid and lost all the weight by my teen years. The older I get, the more I realize that it's better to be happy. You will never please everyone. But I'm really sorry you're going through this. Dont let them get to you. Remember you dont have to be like your mom and pass this negative outlook to your kids. Your mom obviously was talked to this way by her mom. Just be happy and love yourself. Being a slave to your body is the worst thing.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Wow that is so unhealthy! You're not supposed to starve yourself. If you're happy with how you are that's all that matters. I remember doing diets with my friends and diet groups, everyones so miserable at them! I decided it's way better to be healthy mentally than depressed and thin. Make sure to pamper yourself
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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    Welcome to the WeddingWire community, Kay.

    I’m so sorry they are putting this totally unnecessary pressure on you.

    You do NOT need to lose weight for your wedding, and you do not need this kind of talk in your life.

    As much as you can, ignore any talk about dieting that anyone tries to get you to engage with. Just straight up ignore it. I hope you can and focus on all the positive and happy parts of wedding planning.

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  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·
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    I am soooo sorry this is happening to you.

    Your FH loves you as you are. DON'T TRY TO PLEASE YOUR UNPLEASING MOTHER. A mother should neverrrrr talk to her child this way.

    It kinda makes me sad because my FH and I's daughter is chunky and her doctor put her on a small diet. Nothing major. But, I feel so horrible when I tell her no baby you can't eat that... Remember what the doctor said.

    It makes me feel so bad I even have to keep up with it.

    You are beautiful and you are loved. Do not let this get to you.

    If you want to lose weight for your wedding, shoot for the stars. If not, F what your family thinks and do you.

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  • J
    Dedicated June 2021
    Jasmyn ·
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    If you are comfortable, confident, and HAPPY there should be zero discussion about your weight. And even if you weren't I would also tell you NOT to take your mother's or sister's advice. "Skinny" does not equal "healthy" especially when you are flat out starving and overexerting yourself when you have barely enough calories for your body to function. I'm so sorry you are going through this but please continue to stand your ground. You don't need to change for anyone, including your family.

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