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Natalie
August 2021

Different interests?

Natalie, on July 7, 2020 at 3:00 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7

Are you interested in your ancestor's lives? Do you keep old pictures and some belongings? Future husband loves this topic and keeps tons of old photo albums... While I do not. Am I wrong at not being interested in my family's story? Could that cause any trouble?

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Latest activity by Hanna, on July 7, 2020 at 1:15 PM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Do you not *share* any interests?

    That would be a far bigger problem.

    Honestly, you have a right to be interested in whatever you want. And if your FH is obsessed with genealogy... you're going to find out a lot about your family, anyway! He'll do your family, sure enough.

    I'm slightly into family history, but that's because my grandfather did a deep dive after a college professor came asking about an ancestor. And then it turned out we had some cool historical figures, and so on.

    Don't worry about it. Having different interests is good for both of you, so long as you also share some.

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  • Elmarose
    Expert July 2022
    Elmarose ·
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    Are you interested in your ancestor's lives?

    I am to a certain extent. I don't go back more than like 4 generations to be honest.

    Do you keep old pictures and some belongings? I do keep some belongings like my grandmother's jewelry and baby outfit I have made by her. I keep old pictures of my grandmother that passed away and great grandmother. I like to keep photographs as well.

    Am I wrong at not being interested in my family's story? We are all different and I don't believe that you are wrong for not being interested nor does that mean that your fiancé is wrong for being interested. We all have different interest and that makes you guys unique from one another.

    Could that cause any trouble? I don't believe this could cause any trouble unless it bothers you that he has interest in his ancestry or vice versa with him with your lack of interest in it.

    My FH and I share a lot in common but we also share different interest and that is what keeps us from learning more about one another and appreciating our own interest as well. Sometimes he will incorporate me in his interest and at other moments he likes to pursue his interest on his own(like fishing, sci-fi) and that's okay we all need some moments to be our own. I like having some space when it comes to some of my interest. It keeps me in my zone Smiley smile

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  • Erin
    Expert August 2020
    Erin ·
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    I don’t think so. I think that’s what makes us, us. You can share different interests and it never be a problem. My FH loves watching TV and sports. I don’t watch TV at all, lol.
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  • Marina
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    Nope, not really. My cousin once asked me to help her with restoring old pics in Photoglory and it was funny but in general I'm not interested. I also don't see how that could cause any trouble, because having different interests is perfectly fine.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Are you interested in your ancestor's lives?

    Not really. I'm interested in knowing my heritage and recently did an Ancestry.com DNA kit, but I'm not interested in researching individual ancestors.

    Do you keep old pictures and some belongings?

    No.

    Am I wrong at not being interested in my family's story?

    No.

    Could that cause any trouble?

    I don't see why it would. Everyone has different interests and it's perfectly normal, and recommended, to have hobbies that you don't share with your SO.

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  • M
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    Melle ·
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    I’m not interested in it although I think that could be an interesting thing to learn someday
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    It's funny you ask, because I am incredibly interested in my ancestor's lives--I've done a ton of genealogy research throughout the years and it's absolutely a significant hobby of mine. As for my husband--he could absolutely care less about the topic, or about his family's history in general. Does this bother me or cause any problems? Of course not! Like all couples, we have some shared interests and some different interests. He could watch sports all day and I'd be bored out of my mind. As long as you have some shared interests, I don't think you will have any problems.

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