Different religions

Oy! I was raised Episcopalian but my father's side is Catholic. I am hard leaning tword atheism at this point but I just don't talk about it with anyone on my dad's side. FH is Jewish. We are having a Rabbi officiate. He is retired so I don't have to convert. Luckily my dad is fine with anyone who is a person of god performing the ceremony.

The world would be a better place if everyone could just accept each other.

I'm sorry your parents are giving you a hard time. Good luck.

I completely understand I am some what in the same boat but with my in laws not my family. Though my family doesn't want my kids (that I will most likely never have) near my in laws.

I want to share a sorry before I suggest anything. My FH and his siblings were forced into being Catholic they were all forced to be baptized and take first communion even though none of them wanted to. She hit her kids in the head with that religion so much they became atheist. Only my FH and his sister decided they now believe after almost ten years of being atheist.

Maybe you should tell your parents era forcing people to do something they don't want to do especially with something like religion they will more than likely turn their nose up to it. You don't want to force any region on your kids and your parents should respect that. You are their parents. Your parents already did their job on you and don't need to try to parent your kids too.

I'm in an interfaith relationship. My FH is Catholic and I'm jewish. Neither one of us is super religious, but we both have aspects of our religions that we find important. We are choosing to get married by a Catholic Priest and a Rabbi at a non religious location. We had to file some paper work and take some classes for it to be approved by the church.

Both families have asked us about children as well and have put pressure on us to raise them one religion or the other. We have similar plan to what you described to teach them both and let them choose. How you raise your kids is between you and your FH, so do what you are comfortable with.

I don't really have advice on how to talk to your parents about the wedding. Do what you and your FH want to do though. Don't be forced into something your not comfortable with.

Honestly your parents are going to have to realize that this is you and your FH's wedding; they had their wedding and now this is your time. It's OK for them to give advice about raising kids (religion); however, again this will be you and your FH's decision and I don't think that it's a crime to introduce to both denominations and then let them decide. I feel like getting to know about different religions (not necessarily practicing all) makes you a more well-rounded individual.

Do YOU want a Catholic church wedding?

I am Catholic and FH is Presbyterian. Getting married in the church is important to me so we are getting married in my church. Because he is not Catholic, we cannot do the full mass so it will be the ceremony outside of mass.

We have already discussed raising kids and we will expose them to both religions and let them choose later in life which they would like to follow.

I went to the wedding of my cousin with a similar issue, but cousin was raised Catholic & he was not raised religiously. The entire reception I sat & listened to crazy Aunt Diane & how "they could have used some Jesus Christ our Lord in the ceremony" & how she "hopes they put Jesus in their marriage or they're in for trouble". I will not be inviting Aunt Diane to my wedding because she would probably have heart failure after hearing our 0% religious ceremony.

Here's me and my broken record: If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to make these decisions together. Your parents will live. Spoken by a parent and a petulant child !

Chiming in to say to listen to @Samantha's advice about raising your kids. I was raised by a Catholic mom and Episcopalian dad who were 100% NOT on the same page, and my religious journey has been really, really confusing since childhood because of it. I think you have to approach mixed-faith households very intentionally in order for your kids to understand that it's "their choice."

Could you get married in a very small Catholic ceremony with immediate family, then have your outdoor wedding the next day? I don't mean a PPD- you'd have to be honest about this to your guests- but it might be a way to please both sides if you actually do want to get married in the Church.

You are presumably an adult if you're getting married. Be an adult and make a decision based on your faith and your FH's faith. Tell your parents what your adult decision is.

My FH is nazarene and I am Catholic. My father's only wishes were that we raised our children Catholic which is what I told my FH in the first place and if they want to switch when they are 18 go ahead. But we finally decided on a Catholic church wedding but our priest is open to a lot of things. We were fortunate. Just stand your ground and state this is what you want and to just be your parents and be happy for you. Keep a strong front. You two are a team now.

Don't stress it. I'm Catholic and my fiancé is baptist. I know his mom can't be happy that we are getting married in a Catholic Church but at the end of the day you can't please everyone. Although it's stressful because having your family attack you like that makes things sticky it's YOUR DAY period the end.

I read about a similar situation in a Catholic forum yesterday and finally found the quote from a priest that really says it well.

"As a priest, I find these situations to be so heart-wrenching for families as parents come to terms with now adult and autonomous children choosing paths very different from those their parents might have hoped -- and children who find themselves more and more alienated from the Church and then from their families, too.

I always encourage the parents, in the multi-ethnic and multi-cultural societies we more and more are surrounded by, to do as our Holy Father is inviting us...to build bridges and not to build walls."

Make it clear you've thought it through and your answer is "no" - from you, so talking to FH won't change the answer. Be form and polite, them refuse to discuss it further.