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Lynnie
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Different Religious Beliefs - Red Flag or Deal Breaker?

Lynnie, on August 13, 2019 at 11:45 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 73

What role does religion play in your relationship? Would having two different religious beliefs be a red flag or a deal breaker for you?


*Fun fact from our Newlywed Report : 18% of couples married in 2018 have different religious beliefs!*

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Latest activity by Melissa, on July 19, 2021 at 5:37 PM
  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    For me it'd be a deal breaker. I wanted to marry someone Jewish and have a Jewish home. I've only ever dated Jewish guys though so it hasn't been an issue.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I never really thought of this. I've dated guys that were agnostic. But my husband and I are both the same religion. Guess that worked out.
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  • Tamera
    Expert May 2020
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    Not an issue for us. We came from different religious backgrounds, and have decided together which one we want to follow and grow our family in. They were similar traditions and beliefs, but definitely a big step we had to take in deciding which one to be a part of.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    Not a deal breaker. I was raised Methodist and my FH was raised Catholic. Neither of us practice the religions

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    Not a deal breaker. I am Christian and my husband is Jewish. Raising any future kids as Jewish isn’t something that is important to him so we will let any possible kids choose when they are old enough and will not force anything. We celebrate both holidays.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Neither. It doesn’t bother me.
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
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    It depends on how different our views are. At a minimum, he would have to believe in God. If he doesn't like organized church, not as much of a big deal.

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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
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    Neither, really. My FH is Christian and I am not religious, although I do attend Buddhist temple. However, I also go to church with him. I am supportive of his religion and he isn't pushy about me believing the same things he does. We also both agree that our children will be introduced to both Christianity and Judaism (his family is Jewish), as well as Buddhism, and will be able to chose their own beliefs when they are old enough to do so.

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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
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    Deal Breaker, FH and I have the same belief(Deism). I think relationships could work if they were respectful to the other’s beliefs but for my personal relationship it would be a deal breaker.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Deal breaker. I've tried it and just found having different core beliefs didn't work for me.
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  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
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    Neither really. FH is more religious than I am but it hasn't caused any problems. I don't know if I could have dated/married anyone on the extremes of the religious spectrum though. I like people who respect my beliefs and don't try to push more on me or sway me from them.


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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    Deal breaker. I am christian, very involved in my church, and firmly believe that my marriage would never work if God wasn't the center of my marriage.

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  • Denise
    Super September 2019
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    Neither. I'm christian and he's not. No big for me

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  • April
    Dedicated November 2020
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    Neither, I was not raised in a religious family. FH’s mother is very religious, FH is not but was raised in a religious household. Not a deal breaker for either of us, I believe in good morals and that’s enough for me. It could be a deal breaker though if I was being constantly shamed for having different beliefs, I am very open minded but that is not our case.
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  • Anna
    Savvy August 2020
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    Deal breaker - it would be hard to raise a family with someone that practices a different religion
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    We are mostly on the same page. He's baptist and i'm epicopal. Some differences but nothing big. We both believe although we don't go to church

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  • Birdie
    Savvy June 2021
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    Deal breaker. I am not religious and couldn't be married to someone who is.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Deal breaker for me

    I actively chose to not date anyone of faith but that’s a personal preference.
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  • Laura
    Expert September 2019
    Laura ·
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    Deal breaker. I feel like we should have the same beliefs to have a stron relationship. I've seen people break up because of differing religions, political views, etc.

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    Mostly neither as long as the other core values were similar. I dated someone for a very short period who said he was some kind of religion, I believe messianic jew, and he didn't believe in marriage. Not sure if this was his religion or him saying this, but clearly marriage is something that is important to me, so that didn't last.

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