Disappointed but overreacting?

Congratulations! It sounds like the matrimony part worked out okay. It sounds like a day of coordinator would have helped with a bunch of these things. Hope you can keep you mind set on the good things that happened. Did everyone have a good time anyhow? It really is about the celebration of your marriage not these details.

First let me say congratulations! Second, I totally understand. It's okay to be disappointed and it sucks when some stuff you were looking forward to doesn't pan out. Things always go wrong. For instance we ordered a cake for just the two of us and we planned to cut it for a photo and feed everyone else the other desserts we had. There was a miscommunication and after we cut our slice the cake got cut for everyone anyway. This resulted in them not eating some other things we spent money on. Which sucked. But at the end of the day it's not the biggest deal. I forgot to tell our coordinator where to put some decor so it wasn't set up the way I planned but everything still looked beautiful. I know there's pics I forgot about that I'm disappointed about. In retrospect, there's so many things I wish I added to my vows. My train was so dirty after our first look and our family photos and so it was dirty going down the aisle but I got great photos! When it comes down to it, we had a great time and these are not things I think about unless something reminds me. Our friends and family had a great time. Everyone said I was incredibly easy going but it's because I embraced the idea that nothing will be 100% perfect and we had no major setbacks which is all I wanted. I've been happily married to my best friend for two weeks and we spent the day celebrating our love. That's what's important. Think about all of the good that came out of your day and try not to dwell on the little details that no one else noticed but you

I think there’s just so much pressure and desire to have the perfect wedding day that we forget that perfection is impossible. And that while the wedding vendors see weddings all the time, we as brides and grooms see very few, most likely one, from a planning perspective. This is a HUGE event, and we’re all just supposed to know what to do and make all these individual choices to create this perfect fairy tale. I was actually just talking to my FH a couple weeks ago about how all my friends’ weddings have been so nice, and how in the world did they know what to do haha? And like all the new vocabulary we’ve learned since getting engaged. When if we applied for an event planning position, we wouldn’t even get an interview lol. But we all put in so much time and effort and daydreaming that we just want it all to go off as planned. And of course we rely on the professionals, but no wedding is the same and there are just soooo many details that one little difference can have a huge domino effect. It sounds like some of your details got messed up, which is especially frustrating when you spend money on some of then. But since it sounds like nothing major went wrong, maybe try to look back on some of the highlights. And request refunds/review accordingly where appropriate. Congratulations!!! You’re married!!!

I can assure you that no attendee remembers the aisle arrangements and centerpieces. In an anecdotal example, my Type A mother was harping on about centerpieces in my cousin’s wedding (and how I have to outdo him or something) and we both had to dig up a picture to figure out exactly what she was talking about because she remembered it differently from what it really was. Plus, she realized it didn’t matter so I can continue to ignore her harping I’m aiming for “forgettably pleasant” for all decorations.


As for the dress zipper, unless you have a neurodivergent sewing hobbyist like me in attendance who will pay more attention to clothing construction than actual people, I can assure you no one noticed or cared or thought it was out of place.
The doughnuts and DJ sort of sucks. I’d ask for a refund on those, especially the doughnuts. They did not deliver on their order.