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Just Said Yes October 2020

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Natalie, on October 26, 2020 at 10:45 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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I recently got married a couple weeks ago. We has been planning our wedding for a year and paid for everything on our own without help from anyone. We didn't have an over the top wedding but I put alot of thought into the rustic Barn theme and made sure it was nice. We had roughly 30-35 people there. ALL CLOSE FAMILY. First, His nephew a groomsmen didn't arrive when he was suppose to and showed up in white checkered shoes after he knew to wear black shoes. I even went as far as to tell him he could wear his black vans because he thought he was "too cool" to wear dress shoes. My husband's mom was suppose to bring his other nephew and when we asked where he was she said he was grounded. Kind of bothered me because I asked for a for sure count from her because we was paying per person. My sister ended up getting in a fight with her boyfriend so they all left early. Then my husband's mom and brother and the kids that came with them left early. My mom left early. Everyone just left early. No one are cake. Like I took home almost the entire wedding cake. No one tipped the bartender so me and my husband did that. When we got home I was even more disappointed and hurt. We opened our card box and literally got 4 cards. My mom both my sister's and from 2 of my kids. My kids stuck money in theirs but no gift from anyone on either side. Now before anyone says anything.... If my mom or sisters or brothers or his family was struggling and broke I could understand that. But that is not the case. My brother spends a ton of money on his ghost hunting crap. My other brother flips cars and has money and the very next day my sister and mom are out shopping. His family same thing... Could have just didn't. It's not about them getting us anything that bothers me. It's the fact that my mom wouldn't do that to my sister's. She just spent hundreds on my sister's baby shower. She spent $900 to fly across the country to attend my other sisters wedding. And I got I'm sorry I'm broke. Again she was out shopping for decorations for her new house. I guess I'm just hurt... Offended... Would you be?

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Latest activity by Marcia, on October 29, 2020 at 3:02 PM

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Alli · on October 26, 2020 at 11:59 PM
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That sounds quite hurtful!
We found out after our wedding that we just aren’t priority with the majority of our family members. We received about 5 cards (3 with money) and invited 120 to our original wedding.
People have money, but again, some people’s priorities are not gifting others money. And I understand that! However, anytime I have ever been invited to a wedding whether we go or not, we always send a card with money. We did not receive what we have been dishing out by a long shot. The fact that everyone left early, is just disrespectful in my opinion. We have left early from weddings, but not “close” or immediate family member weddings. I’m also surprised nobody tipped the bartender if they were getting drinks? Sounds like not a lot of wedding etiquette occurred at your wedding, sadly. I hope you enjoyed the day anyways!!
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Mrs. Spring · on October 27, 2020 at 12:21 AM
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Yes, I would be hurt. However, I dont live with my FH and neither of us have kids. Many may assume that you already have everything you need in the home and you never mentioned a registry on this post. I prefer to give couples a useful gift that they needed rather than money.
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Michelle · on October 27, 2020 at 12:24 AM
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I’m so sorry you went through that! That sounds horrible. You have every right to feel hurt.
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Natalie · on October 27, 2020 at 12:26 AM
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It would have just been nice to be thought of... Kind of like the thought that counts. Anytime my mom needs anything or my sister or brother have birthday parties... I'm there. We are normally the ones trying to help them out with whatever they need. Same with my husband. We don't need anything. But just to have been thought of would have been nice. Instead in played out kind of like it was an inconvenience.
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Mrs. Spring · on October 27, 2020 at 12:30 AM
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I understand. They could have asked if there was something you needed an upgrade on, like kitchen appliances, or silverware. Sounds like they love you, but have other priorities. You may wajt to mention to them that you were hurt, but only mention it once.
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Vicky · on October 27, 2020 at 3:14 AM
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Your guests should never have been expected to tip the bartender, that was always your responsibility. I would try to get over the groomsman's shoes and people leaving early and not eating the cake. I understand being upset at not getting a present from your mother because she's your mother, but in general presents are not required and people have a year to get you a present if they want to anyway, so I would suggest you try to focus on the fact that you got married to your love and had your family around you. That's all you can control.
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Shakiyla · on October 27, 2020 at 6:05 PM
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Oh the gift box is my concern as well.
I'm really nervous about not getting a gift. I will cuss my guest out, most of them have been a pain in my ass!!
But I'm sorry you went through this, people can be really careless when it something that doesn't pertain to them.
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Marcia · on October 29, 2020 at 3:02 PM
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You deserve to be upset about everything except for tipping the bartender. Sometimes people just can't stop being selfish for a night, even for someone they love. That's family sometimes unfortunately. I say feel your feelings and then move on to your wonderful new life with your spouse.
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