Disappointing and unsure of fh

Idk if I can over this. After the new year FH and I started to talk about wedding plans - well I didn’t know he had a few drinks at first and we were talking. So I mentioned a small chapel ceremony and reception dinner ( it’s our second so I said it will be small ) he said sure your parents are paying right ? I swore he was joking at first. Then I realized he was not. I said well idk maybe my parents can pay the chapel but can’t we contribute to dinner and other stuff ? He said no. I said fine I will he said no cause that’s the same thing. He said try to get more money out of your mom. Keep in mind my parents don’t have much and live off my dads pension. I was crying and so upset. He said save the waterworks for your mom not me. After this went on for hour I said well i guess we can’t get married. He said sure poor people get married every day — in other words I come from a poor family - wth. I mean even if he’s drunk how wrong was that ?


The next day I was still upset and said idk what to think. He said sorry I didn’t realize your parents are on a pension we will pay. I was drinking and egging you on.
But I can’t get it out of my head. Since then when I ask his opinion or ask do you want to drive past chapel he has no interest. I said should we not do this ? But then he looks upset so it’s confusing.
Oh and I asked how he paid for his first wedding - he said he paid it all. I asked cause I knew the ex wife’s family didn’t have much. Was he projecting from his past marriage ? I’m so sad. This isn’t how it should be. Am I wrong to feel insecure now