Hi everyone. Just feeling a little emotional. My mother hasn't shown any excitement for my wedding at all. I've tried numerous times to ask her if certain weekends were good for us to go dress shopping together. She always makes excuses that aren't really valid. I told her I made an appointment for this weekend...her response was "ok....I SHOULD be available". I'm just so disappointed. I always thought a mom would be excited to go wedding dress shopping, but my mother has never shown enthusiasm for really anything in my life. When we started planning the wedding she even said "are you sure you want a wedding? why not just get married at the courthouse and save the money". She said this in front of FH and family. It was hurtful because she knows that I've always dreamed of having a wedding and she knows how excited FH and I are. Also, my family is very wealthy and my dad is paying for the wedding (they have separate accounts). We are SOOOO happy and thankful my dad offered to pay. It means everything to us. TBH, this wedding really has no effect at all on their finances. I asked her why she said that and she said she doesn't want the added stress of dealing with a wedding. I am very confused because so far FH and I have planned and taken care of everything ourselves, including all of the vendors and the deposits for them.
Anyway, I'm just feeling really emotional about it. I just wish she was somewhat excited. I was thinking of going to the dress appointment with those who ARE excited for me, such as my FMIL/MOH and bridesmaids instead. If she doesn't want to be there, I don't want to force her to come...and if she keeps blowing me off that's ridiculous because I really need to start looking at dresses and making a decision. Do you think I should go to the appointment without her if she blows me off again? I know she would probably be mad but at this point I'm not sure if I even care that she's mad.