Disappointment

View Quoted Comment Yes I definitely agree with you on both of those! Even our grandparents don't seem as excited as you'd think or hope for. FH parent's went to Europe for 2 weeks and got back 10 days out from our wedding so they are exhausted and don't seem as excited. We're doing DIY flowers because I couldn't believe how expensive boquets and boutineers were!

My dramatic sister deciding she didn’t like not being the center of attention. So she caused a big family fight and is now not coming to the wedding. This may actually be a good thing; drama free event.

My church charging to use the facilities. They only charge for weddings and no other events. I’ve thrown baby showers and birthdays there that were bigger.

The snide comments from some of my family about this being my second wedding.

FH’s family being completely non supportive and non responsive to invites.

A boatload of people adding plus ones to their invite and not being able to invite everyone.

Oh, the floor plan not being 🖨ed, the Table numbers not being provided by the Wedding planner, along with her just general incompetence and unprofessionalism.

The detailed table set up instructions not being used.

However, they say, “If you want something done right, do it yourself”.

People being so ungrateful and not taking into consideration how much weddings cost. I have had a few people bail out now 7 days before the wedding and their meals have already been paid for so that sucks!

Definitely the fact that my best friend is no longer my bridesmaid. my best friend throughout college wouldn’t text me back about anything wedding, or get fitted for her dress. i asked if she’d rather just be a guest and she said “honestly, yes”. when she got married i was always trying to be there for her and do anything i could. now we are down a bridesmaid and we had to change the bridesmaids colors because of the amount of girls. nobody wants to talk about any of the planning, or help with anything. they keep telling me i have a year left to plan, but now half of the vendors i wanted are already booked with other couples and not accepting more for our october 2020 wedding.

I would say the negativity coming from FH's side of the family. People trying to dictate how our wedding should be, who should go, not go, etc. People trying to use their money as a means of controlling and manipulating the flow of our wedding. I've had to stop talking about our wedding to certain folks, because the less they know, the less stress we end up having.

View Quoted Comment We are having a hard time with this!! He has a large family and we both have a large network. It’s stressful, but I know we have to make a decision...soon!

The lack of RSVPs. Invitations went out a month ago. It takes no more than 2 minutes on the website, or send an email, or call/text me. NOT HARD PEOPLE.
The, until a couple weeks ago, complete lack of interest by FILs. Not a “how’s the planning going?” or a “hey, need any help?” or, well, anything acknowledging that their son was getting married. Until they had a snit about having to RSVP. Hey, we don’t know if you’re coming to the rehearsal dinner or not. It’s been a big disappointment to FH.

View Quoted Comment I’m having a hard time with that, especially with work people. I want to invite everyone but it’s just not doable.

I am a very low key bride and there are a lot of parts of planning where I have to make decisions that I don't really care about. My biggest dissapointment is that I spend all this time effort deciding something (both the thing I care about, and the ones I don't) and then it gets changed anyway. Examples: both original groomsmen canceled, one 2 months before the wedding, one 3 weeks before. Hair and makeup artist is in the hospital 3 weeks before the wedding, moh is pregnant (which I knew about and am fine with) but I can't plan the timing of the music until I know if she will be there.
So after you do all this planning and make all these decisions, they get changed around and then if you are at all upset about it, then you are being "dramatic" or a "bridezilla" or your are not "focusing on the real point of the wedding". I think I'm just getting to the point of being over all the planning.
And the no one else seems to care it true, but my mom gets offended when I say that.

So far, I would say the cost of everything and some of the weird vendor quirks (e.g., 'You have a popular date, so I'm going to charge you 10% more as though it's a holiday.'). The most difficult thing to book so far has surprisingly been a hair stylist! I couldn't get anyone to respond to me for some reason. (Though I'm finally talking with one now; fingers crossed it works out!)

Lack of support. I know the saying goes, "No one gets as excited for your wedding as you," but I didn't think it'd be like this. I feel like no one cares, and when I choose to share details out of sheer excitement, people just have their own opinions. I.e. I liked the other dress more, your flowers are too expensive, why is your wedding on a week day, how much is your venue costing, etc. And nothing I say seems to be the "right" answer. Further more, I looooove my FH more than life itself, and maybe he's just a guy, but he's the only person who can listen to my emotional side - and I end up crying every time we actually sit down and talk about the big day. I don't know how he puts up with me...

My closest friends not helping ONE BIT prior to the ceremony/reception after telling me "I will 100% be there the night before with you to help set up and decorate. It made me feel pretty devastated the day of when they went out to lunch prior to the ceremony and showed up an hour before the ceremony asking if there's anything that they could help with now. It's my fault for not having a bridal party but probably just a poor choice of unreliable friends. I was also pretty upset at the unpredicted rain during the outdoor reception but oh well! Glad it's over!

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. I'm pretty sure everyone at my wedding had an amazing time EXCEPT for my husband and I. We were so relieved its all over with.

Probably the cost of everything! I had NO idea going into this the cost of a wedding - or a reception! Also, the cost of a dress. I used to watch say yes to the dress and think “no way! $2000 for a dress?!” Now I totally get how that could happen!

View Quoted Comment Unless the family you are talking about are Groomsmen or Bridesmaids, it is considered rude to tell any guest or family member, including parents who may be in the ceremony, what style or colors to wear. Ever. At any social event, including weddings. B & G tell people onlythe formality, ie : black tie, formal, semi-formal or cocktail, business wear or casual. Whatever the B and G and wedding party wear, the family and guests may dress that formally, or one step down. . . . Perhaps your family knows standard etiquette or good manners says they choose for themselves what to wear. Cannot fault them for showing good manners. It is your wedding, and your day to choose the basic outfit for wedding attendants. Only them. Never for guests and adult family. Any bride who plans on telling family how to dress, or guests, or choosing colors or style, is likely to be very disappointed that people may do it if they please, or ignore what you say because it was inappropriate for you to say it to begin with. They will still be considered polite. Sorry .

View Quoted Comment The first time you have to completely redo something, it is easy to tell yourself, get over yourself and do it with a smile. But one thing after another, plan, then redo, this close to the wedding, is extremely frustrating. It is hard to be easy going when you feel everything you so carefully built is collapsing around you, and people should see that. I hope things get settled with no more changes to cope with .