Disappointment

I didn’t expect my dad to cause as many arguments as he has I have always feared him causing a scene at the wedding but never thought he’d be so much to deal with during the planning process

So far, the entire process for me. I got pregnant, and then we had some drama with me being told he was cheating on me. We got past that, and got things on a better track. But now Im paying for everything. Not just me and my fiance, but me. Its all on me. And not just for the wedding. I dont even have a ring to wear. He got me a set (turns out it was from Wish, and totaled $9), but it turned my finger green. We don't have money for anything wedding. We could probably afford the $35 marriage license and my sister can marry us standing in a park. I'm finding it very hard and emotional to give up that "dream" because Im a very visual and detail/design-oriented person who could plan weddings for a living. I know what dress I love, what type of venue I love, what invitations I want, what music I would play, what fun stuff I would plan forn the reception, how I want my hair/makeup, what I want bridesmaids to wear, the cake I would get, what the guys would wear, who my photographer would be, and even have the place settings for the tables.... and I'll never see any of it come to life for my own big day. Its exasperating.

Went to see the venue and it looked nothing like what the picture showed online at all ughhh I wasnt to happy about that😔

View Quoted Comment Awww I'm so sorry to hear that I hope that gets nipped in the butt sooner than later

View Quoted Comment Omg I cant even imagine what ur going through love wow I'm so very sorry this has me literally in tears.. I pray it works itself out for and him.

View Quoted Comment Long as u guys are happy in it's what u want nobody else matters at all and if they dont like it dont attend🤷‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Oh wow that is alot to deal with but of course we are built for things like this even when we think were not. U seem like ur handling it very well under certain circumstances in I truly believe its gonna be an amazing wedding because an AMAZING woman is in charge 😊

View Quoted Comment I agree drama free is the way to be especially when its supposed to be all about you🙃

View Quoted Comment WELP all I would say to them is screw them all🤷‍♀️ sometimes u just have to let people say and feel how they want regardless of the situation. This ur time and if they cant support you they need not to attend any of it. Hope it gets better.

View Quoted Comment Yes! and Yes!!

View Quoted Comment I’m not worried about it. I originally felt that I “should” invite certain people. We had planned for a November wedding and about 100 people. I sent out the invites then I started hearing negative talk. We had a family emergency and I ended up having to cancel the November date. FH And I decided at that time to do a Courthouse wedding on October 11th because we thought that was all we could afford. Then my immediate family stepped up and offered to pay for dinner if they could attend the ceremony. Turned into a coordinated 30 person guest list and those family members who were originally invited to the November date who were mean no longer coming. I’m no longer stressed and I’m looking forward to our day.

View Quoted Comment I also ended up with a $0 budget. I found that paying in full as we went helped a lot. Our biggest expense will be dinner for everyone. There’s a lot of things you can do to bring your vision to life on the cheap. Thrift stores have been my best friends and just talking to people about working with us. You’d be surprised at what you can accomplish with a few phone calls.

View Quoted Comment Wow, Ashley. We are soul sisters! Hardest part for me in all of the planning was losing my grandma. My fiance and I have also been together over 10 years and engaged since 2016. I am SO disappointed that we couldn't put a wedding together before she passed away. She was over the moon excited for our wedding. Even during her last days on the hospital she was talking to us about our wedding details. It's such a shame :-(

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So sorry to hear what you’re going through Julie...I hope you can have a wedding that you’re happy with. Even if it takes longer to plan and save, I’d consider that just so that you can have the wedding you want. Im paying for a majority of my wedding...fiancée is helping out but we have lots of bills to pay for. I just picked up a second job...hoping that helps!

A good friend of mine got married a few years ago and it was beautiful but she told me she wish she invested more on her dress and photographer. She wanted to be so careful with her money which is wise, but she felt she should’ve spent more to get more of what she envisioned.

View Quoted Comment Sorry you had to cancel once. That part must have been stressful. But the result of losing the troublesome people sounds terrific! Most weddings, like most holiday gatherings, there are always a few who seem to live to make other people's lives miserable. Worse when you did not necessarily want them to begin with, and they come as a package deal with someone you do care about, so you feel stuck.

Everything! I haven't enjoyed the planning process at all. Its been one big headache after another, mostly because of my father. He's extremely difficult to deal with and because he's the one paying for the wedding he's caused most of the issues because he doesn't want to pay for things after promising he would. I was also very shocked at how expensive weddings are... It seems like there's a few extra $$$ when the word wedding is attached to something.

View Quoted Comment If you go back to some of the same very does at 8 months out ( if not booked elsewhere by then), you may find that there are lots of open dates. One thing bad that has happened with people booking earlier and earlier, is that there is more time for things to go wrong with people's relationships, finances, and health. A place with not a single open weekend in the busiest 9 months,. May have 20-30 Fri or Sat open gs at 6-8 months due to cancellations and postponements, or cutting things due to overspending. We got engaged 5 months before out wedding, and good friends did it at 6 months. And we were amazed at the available dates. Two people who found our where we booked, we're upset. We showed them the taken/ open dates calendar given us, and each had tried to book there on their date at a year and at about 15 months. Every day of every weekend all summer til late October. Opened up again at 6-9 months from their wedding. One got rid of her alternate booking. And because of the later booking date, got a price 15%cheaper than private Ted rates when looking g before. Place after place showed us opened up dates due to cancelled weddings or other big parties. So don't get discouraged.

View Quoted Comment I’m so nervous something like that will happen to me 🙃

Yes that is definitely the spirit to have I'm sure its gonna be amazing.

Honestly, I've been disappointed in how much everything costs! I had no idea weddings cost this much until I began planning my own