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GrayCatVintage
Master October 2015

How often do you fight/argue with your FH? What is it about usually?

GrayCatVintage, on May 1, 2014 at 11:53 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 52

Me and FH do not live together, therefore we never fight or argue about anything. I am sure that will change when he moves in with me because he is kind of a slob at his house with dirty dishes and clothes everywhere.

If anything, I have snapped at him over something stupid - usually involving driving. I make him drive us anywhere now because if I am driving I will get super pissed (I just do for no real reason) and start a fight. I also panic if I think we will get "lost" and I will take it out on him. One time I forgot we were supposed to visit his grandmother and I went shopping without my phone and he could not get a hold of me. I totally spaced it and he about ripped my head off when I got home. What do you and FH fight about?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on May 1, 2014 at 6:52 PM
  • DisneyNut
    Master October 2014
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    Where to eat or what to eat at home. That's seriously about it.

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  • Zzil
    Master October 2014
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    We usually don't. One thing I adore about FH is the communication we have. Instead of bickering, we have the "it bothers me when" conversations. If we are annoyed with each other, we actually have an adult conversation about why we are annoyed right then. It kind of freaked me out at first, but I can get used to this. The only downside is, there is never any make up sex.

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  • Jae
    Master June 2014
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    We never fight. We haven gotten upset at each other but we talk it out and it's fine . Usually uts because one of us is stressed from something else. It's actually really refreshing because my ex and I fought alllll the time .

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  • Angetothela
    Devoted November 2014
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    I would say our fights are mostly about him saying he will do something by "x" date and he doesn't! It drives me crazy.

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  • Julia Beth
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    We were fighting like cats and dogs for awhile there, all over wedding planning. And then out of the blue one day he comes home and tells me he realizes he hasn't been as helpful as he could be, that he needs to communicate better and cut me some slack. He'd been very impatient with me, like he thought I was nagging anytime I'd ask him if he got something wedding-related done (which he never did), and it finally processed that maybe I've been a little stressed because he'd been letting me handle the whole thing on my own. He actually said he wanted to be a better fiance and a better husband than that, and he's been nothing short of amazing since.

    In regular life we rarely fight, though (and we do live together). Usually it's just over dumb stuff, like him forgetting to make the bed or me playing a video game for too long.

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  • **Mrs.Smedstad
    Super October 2014
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    We have lived together for a couple years and throughout our relationship we have only argued a couple times.

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  • Kelsey
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    We usually fight about super tiny things that don't matter at all. Like what we are going to do or something like that. We always work it out though. Smiley smile

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  • LG
    Master October 2014
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    We very rarely fight, because when we do, its about really important shit, (we fought for two days straight this week. It was bad but in the end, was really over a miscommunication).

    I'll get pissy at him sometimes because he drives like a jack ass though.

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  • Chelsea
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    We usually only bicker when we are "working together". And typically they are not fights, just us annoyed with each other. Example, last night, putting guard rail up in my barn (its SUPER HEAVY and a PAIN in the A$&dollarSmiley winking, I dropped my end because my grip slipped. He yelled, I yellled back. We worked in silence for five min, all was good.

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  • Pentecost
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    We don't really fight. We've had a few miscommunications that resulted in hurt feelings, but we talked it out and resolved everything.

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  • Carlene
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    We don't fight but we do bicker. And it is usually over his mood swings. He can be a moody person at times and I am overly sensitive to it. That's usually about it.

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  • Fit Bride
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    Rarely. I think we fight about who gets to turn off the light before climbing into bed. It's a battle every night. I always win haha, he should just give up.

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  • Shannon S.
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    We bicker a lot because we're both hardheaded and used to being a leader. We are extremely careful to never argue in public though - a friend of mine and her husband are referred to as the Amazing Bickering McBickersons because they pick and pick at each other at every event. It's so awkward, so we just tell each other, "That bothers me, but let's discuss when we get home."

    The usual things we argue about are clutter (I basically have to sob for an hour about the mess before DH will throw even one pencil away), his family (they want us to travel to spend every holiday with them, and I don't travel well due to a migraine disorder), my friends (he doesn't like a few of them, and goes on and on about it), his driving (he never pays attention), and my sleeping habits (I sleep in on weekends, while he's raring to go).

    In five years together, I'd say we've had fewer than ten big fights, but we have small arguments every month or so.

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  • C
    Master July 2014
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    We rarely fight but when we do, it's almost always about my cats. He hates them.

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  • Sunshine
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    We have only had one real argument in our two year relationship...it's mostly just bickering. And even that is rare. We get along exceptionally well, but if we do bicker it's usually about chores. Who has to do the dishes, take the dog out, etc.

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  • Ashleigh
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    Very rarely. I think our last real fight was Sept. 2012. We know each others hot buttons and do not push them.

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  • FutureMrsDelpra
    Master October 2015
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    We bicker about chores, but it's nothing serious. I learned a lot from my failed marriage, mainly picking and choosing my battles. And FH and I communicate pretty well with each other. I did get pretty upset with him on multiple occasions within the first six months we lived together though and I just tend to give the silent treatment. He couldn't recall my eye color one night in bed, which upset me pretty badly since I was pregnant with his child and we have known each other since middle school. And he used to lie to me about watching porn. It didn't/doesn't bother me if he watches porn, but it was the fact that he was trying to hide it from me that upset me.

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  • Nel
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    We've never really fought before, but we do occassionally get annoyed at each other about chores.. but that lasts like 5 minutes, if that. Rather than arguing, we both make an effort to talk things out. I use my parents as an example of what not to be like - i.e. I don't want to be someone who expects the other person to mind-read, and then get upset that the other person hasn't figured out what they've done wrong. Therefore if I'm upset/annoyed at anything then I'll simply tell him and we can sort it out. Luckily he shares my view on this.

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  • We'llAlwaysHaveParis
    Master November 2013
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    The last fight we had was 3 days before Thanksgiving (6 days before the wedding, go figure) and it was over how to properly thaw a turkey. I remember wanting to drop that frozen bird on his foot. All 18lbs of it.

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  • SunshineJenn
    Master August 2014
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    We bicker over driving. I'm an aggressive driver, but he takes it to another level and it makes me bonkers (and nervous). I'm always telling him he needs to relax because it won't get us there any faster. At which point he gets mad at me LOL.

    But we don't really fight.

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