Disinviting family members to wedding?

I agree with Caytlyn. I am sorry that you are going through this.

I'm sorry I feel different than the other posters. Without any additional background information I would feel like to hell with them If my sisters all dropped out of my wedding, didn't come to my shower, not talking to me, not coming to the rehearsal dinner then there is no need for them to come to my wedding. Why would I want someone there who obviously doesn't care about me and my feelings. I don't want to look over on my wedding day and see them. But that's just me. I don't have a problem cutting people off who are mistreating me when I know I haven't done anything to them. Have you done anything to them for them to not want to be a part of the happiest time of your life?

I agree with you, Michelle. The original poster is being blatantly disrespected and ignored by her siblings... they clearly do not care to be involved in her life and have dropped out of her wedding, among other things. So why should OP want her there?

Hey Noona,

I don't blame you for not wanting negative energy at your wedding. I've had a difficult situation with my youngest sister (she did something very distasteful) and I told her to make things right or I don't want her to stand up for me at my wedding. She straight up told me she has no problem not being a bridesmaid. I was floored. Some people no matter who it is, need to have distance from us, for our peace of mind and well-being. Majority of people will say "still invite her, be the bigger person" etc etc, but what if we've tried? What if we've tried to remedy the situation and these family/friends are still being disrespectful and rude? Just allow these individuals to come to our wedding and continue their shenanigans? I don't want ANYONE at my wedding who would behave that way to me, even if it's family. Sometimes, etiquette needs to be thrown out the window. If they have decided to stop talking to you and they dropped out of the wedding party, that's pretty much a message saying they don't want to be there. I would cut off further contact unless they are willing to give heartfelt apologies and make things right with you. Don't talk to them about the wedding anymore. If they show up, they show up. But I wouldn't remind them about the wedding or try to get them back on. Surround yourself with positive individuals who uplift you and want the best for you. One day, your sisters may regret their behavior and come to you and apologize. I am sorry you've had to go through this. It's difficult when it's a sibling or another family member.

Maybe they're jealous of you

Facts!!!!!!!! People only treat you the way you allow them too.

I'm with you on this. Just because they are family doesn't mean they have to be invited. I debated inviting my brother because it had been a year since we spoke. We're working on our relationship now

I'm with the other posters who say you don't have to invite them! They are the ones in the wrong here based on what you've told us, and they are the ones who will regret being this way to you! I certainly wouldn't want them around on my wedding day! Good luck!

Hi Noona! Congrats and don't you worry another pretty hair on your head! I agree with Michelle and Andrea 100%!! I'm in the same predicament and believe me, it's not bothering me one little bit!

My FH niece has always been with me and we did things together but this year, she got in her feelings about something her "man" told her I said and instead of coming to me with it, she cut off contact even after I called her. But it's ok. I told my FH that I refuse to have someone be at our wedding that does not talk to me or respect me. So that's 2 less people on my guest list.

The difference in our situation is that I haven't sent out invites yet and you have. If they come, this is the time for you to truly put your best foot forward and be as cordial as you know how. But if they come in to disrupt your day, do not get upset just have security or someone escort them out. It's all about you!!

It will put a strain on your relationship no matter what at this point.

My sister got engaged to a guy we absolutely abhorred. And I made sure to let her know it! She posted an engagement photo on Facebook without even telling me first and I blew up at her for so many things. She ended up texting me that she was really upset with how I reacted. (fair enough - shouldn't have gone viral mad over the post, but there were A LOT of reasons why I did it, just one of them being that not months before she had claimed he was "stalking her and she wanted no part of being in a relationship with him") Needless to say a few weeks later (they got married within 3 months of being engaged) I received a letter stating that "it would probably be best for the both of us if I did not attend the wedding". Now I couldn't attend at this point anyway as I was out of the country, but it still hurt to hear it. It took years to mend the relationship and although it will never be as close as it was before we do talk and see each other now. So we're getting there.

But it is YOUR day - so no one should feel entitled to come just because they are related to you, especially if they have been disrespectful and rude. I dealt with feeling awful for my actions and not getting invited because of it for years. But I got over it and honestly it was for the best I didn't show up - I definitely would have caused problems and made my sister feel bad on her big day. So do what you think is right, but at this point it seems your relationship is already strained with your sisters and it would only cause you stress and unnecessary drama the day of to have them attend.

Perhaps let them know that at this point you would prefer them not attend as they cannot give an explanation of their behavior towards you. You don't want to feel uncomfortable the whole day when you are supposed to be enjoying yourself and if they can't get over whatever their problem is then you don't need them to bring it to your wedding and you can discuss any issues with them after the day's over. Let them know it has been extremely uncomfortable/awkward to have no explanation to give other family members about their absence from events and you don't need to continue to feel that way.