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AQuixoticBride
VIP July 2018

Ditching the engagement ring after marriage?

AQuixoticBride, on August 10, 2018 at 4:59 PM

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I know it may seem impossible to part with it when you get it, but is anyone else not wearing your engagement ring after getting married? The last time I wore my engagement ring was the morning of our wedding. I put it in the box right before I put my dress on and haven't taken it out since. A...

I know it may seem impossible to part with it when you get it, but is anyone else not wearing your engagement ring after getting married?

The last time I wore my engagement ring was the morning of our wedding. I put it in the box right before I put my dress on and haven't taken it out since. A couple of people have asked me where it's gone to or if I'll resize it to wear on my right hand, but the truth is I never planned on wearing it after getting married. To my mind, the engagement ring the symbol of a promise, the band a symbol of a commitment. On a practical level, the ring snagged on things and constantly needed cleaning from wearing it most days. I am also not much of a jewelry person and my simple, handmade wedding ring (pictured below) is much more in keeping with my style.

If you see yourself wearing your engagement ring forever, why? What could make you decide not to wear it anymore? If you've already decided not to, what's your reasoning?

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  • BabsandBear
    Expert October 2018
    BabsandBear ·
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    I picked out a wedding band that compliments my engagement ring, so yes I do plan on wearing it afterwards. I will be wearing it during and after our wedding for many more days to come. Smiley smile

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  • M
    Expert September 2018
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    I love the design of my engagement ring. I'm not a jewelry person and my FH chose the perfect one. Because I enjoy wearing it and it fits my style. My wedding band will simply be a band and I think it will compliment the engagement ring well. I plan on wearing both. I also think he would be disappointed if I didn't wear it. He saved and searched and really put his heart in trying to find the perfect ring.
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  • falkenmarried
    Expert August 2018
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    I’m only going to wear my wedding band. I don’t really wear my e-ring at all. It’s not practical for my job. My e-ring was my great grandmother’s, so it didn’t cost us anything. I’ll wear it on special occasions but my engagement ring and wedding band don’t even match
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  • Cheryl&rock
    VIP June 2019
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    I will wear my engagement ring forever. After we're married I will wear both forever! They are a pair to me, symbolic of his love for me.

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  • Robyn
    Expert October 2018
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    I will continue to wear mine because I love it. I told him I would want a heart cut ruby and he got me a heart cut red sapphire because it's cheaper and more of a true red than the pinkish most rubies are. Also my engagement ring and wedding ring are a set.
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  • C
    Devoted April 2019
    Cheyenne ·
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    Ill be wearing both. Simply because I want to I guess, maybe if we ever upgrade on an anniversary I’ll upgrade to a band only.
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  • Nique
    Devoted July 2019
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    I can’t imagine not wearing mine my FH custom designed it for me it’s beautiful and not to mention cost him a pretty penny too . I will wear my wedding band in front of it
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  • Tori
    Devoted March 2019
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    I'm definitely wearing mine. He worked hard to pay for this ring and I love it so much. It's simple and classic, and I've never owned anything more expensive in my life besides my car! I would feel wrong putting it in a box forever. I'm so grateful to have him as my partner for life.

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  • Britty
    Savvy August 2018
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    I picked out my wedding band to fit around my engagement ring. Neither of them were crazy expensive but I love how they look together, and it's different than the traditional band.

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  • C
    Dedicated September 2018
    Christine ·
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    I'll be wearing mine, but because it was my grandmother's set, her rings were soldered together and I decided to leave them that way. She passed away when I was 16, and my grandfather died before I was born. So it's very meaningful to me.
    My aunt, not a huge jewelry person, had the diamond from her engagement ring put in an earring and had 1 second hole pierced so she still wore her diamond everyday, just not on her finger. I always that was an awesome idea.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
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    My engagement ring is our birthstones so I am keeping. I honestly don’t know if I want a wedding ring if so justsne thin silver band.
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  • Mrs.D
    Devoted August 2018
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    I will wear mine after we get married. As you stated it does symbolize a promise, to me it’s a promise that from that day on we will spend our lives together. And my wedding bands will be soldered to my engagement ring. I am able to customize both since my FFIL is a jeweler my FH asked him to make it simple so I could customize it. And we designed it together just like we are planning our lives together. And the wedding bands I feel also symbolize that from that day forward we are a team through everything more so then before, and that they are sealing the promise.
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  • AQuixoticBride
    VIP July 2018
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    It's so great to have this sort of connection with a piece. It's such a blessing to have something of your grandmother's you can hold dear. I wore a necklace that belonged to my late grandmother on our wedding day.
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  • charms88
    Savvy August 2018
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    FH and I didn't know much about which jewels are better for rings when we bought the ring. We only knew diamonds and gold bands are expensive and that I really liked opals because I love all the colors you can see in opals.
    So with that, we got a Sterling silver ring with an opal stone. I eventually stopped wearing mine though because I didn't want to further damage the opal stone (as I soon learned opal and soaps do not mix) and my ring size changed over our 4 year engagement.
    I've thought about getting it resized, but given it's Sterling silver, it's not exactly the most ideal for a resize, and right now I work as a janitor with a variety of harsh cleaning chemicals - a no-go for that opal stone.

    As of right now, it's in the same box it came in with my wedding ring. I love seeing them together in the box, though when we go to family events, I wear my engagement ring on my pinky.

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  • AJ
    VIP September 2018
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    I won't be wearing an engagement ring after getting married...thankfully that was the plan even before I lost it 2 1/2 months prior to the wedding. Smiley sad I would have liked to, but my ring was made of moonstone, which is not hard enough for everyday wear over many years. On top of that, the style of the ring was not going to line up with any sort of band.

    I chose to get a wedding ring that looks like 2 bands intertwined so it soooort of symbolizes having 2 rings.

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  • Kristen328
    Super September 2018
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    I will continue to wear mine. I love it, so why not?
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  • Sarah
    Dedicated May 2019
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    No engagement ring for me (and no dramatic proposal or anything like that). That’s just not us. Honestly I never saw the point. I knew I only wanted to wear ONE ring so I am waiting to wear it until the ceremony. It’s nice to see that many others are deciding what works best for them rather than conforming!
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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
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    I plan to wear my engagement ring forever. It means so much to me, as an important step in our relationship. My husband designed the ring for me, and it was part of such a special day, that I can't imagine not having the physical reminder with me.

    I also think it's pretty, and bought my wedding band to match it.

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  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
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    I will be wearing my engagement ring with my band after we are married. Both are relatively simple and are quite lovely. FH went through so much time and care and effort to find something for me that he thought I would like and I don't wear much jewelry.

    For me, having both together is a reminder of the time in our life where we decided to take another step and all the fun and frustration that came with it, and then the day that we followed through on that promise and began the rest of our lives together.

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  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
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    I know how you feel! I never liked seeing pictures of someone's ring on social media, that's why I never posted mine (except for here, like you said). A ring is pretty but I'm much more excited for the couple and to hear their story!

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