Ditching the engagement ring after marriage?

My engagement ring (he picked it out to spring the question) didn't fit any band I liked when it came time to plan 2years later. I wear my engagement ring on a nice silver and gold necklace everyday.

View Quoted Comment I love that opal! I have large hands- if you can't tell in the picture I posted my ring and DH's ring are the same size- so I have had many rings resized, including silver ones. Hopefully you an find a competent jeweler to do it.

I'm actually doing the opposite of you but I think your sentiments are really sweet!! We won't be getting wedding bands... I just don't want to spend money on more jewelry when I don't wear that much to begin with. We have our rings that we love, that symbolize our love, and that's that. (:

I love mine so I got a set to put it in, but I also have a simpler band for when I'm somewhere or doing something that might ruin the set.

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I'm half-surprised more people aren't saying that they don't plan to keep wearing the ring - I'd say about 95% of the married women I know don't wear their engagement rings with any regularity. My mom has been wearing just a band for my parents' almost 50 years of marriage, and actually had an engagement necklace (which she also never wears).

2 really interesting articles about engagement rings

https://www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/385376/

https://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/05/fashion/weddings/how-americans-learned-to-love-diamonds.html

View Quoted Comment Most everyone on here just got married. They all plan to wear it, but plan versus reality is very different.

I would never in a million years dream of putting my ring in a box. It does have sentimental meaning as the main stone is from my mom’s ring (my Dad has passed away and she wanted me to have it) .... but even if it didn’t have that meaning I still would feel the same. It’s something FH put a lot of thought into and spent a lot of money on. I’m definitely not one concerned with material things but it would still seem wasteful to me to not wear it. It literally feels like an extension of my hand at this point, I feel naked without it.

View Quoted Comment I previously said I was planning on wearing it because I love it and such. But I also feel like I'm more going off what I know and grew up with. My mom always worn both. I never really noticed what others did. But to me wearing it seems more "normal" than not. Also both my moms and my sets are pretty simple. So it's not a burden to wear it. Here is a photo of a similar styling to what we have.

View Quoted Comment True. And I also think It's fascinating how influenced culture can be by ad campaigns. That was part of my desire not to have a diamond engagement ring at all. Seems like a lot things about weddings in general that we perceive as necessary or normal were sold to us through clever marketing campaigns, gift registries, for example. Of course that influence extends beyond weddings as well.

My engagement ring is a diamond we inherited from my grandmother and it has significant sentimental value. I plan to wear them both, and we picked out my wedding band to compliment my engagement ring, so it would look weird to just wear that by itself.

I wear both my wedding band and engagement ring together and always will. I just can't imagine not wearing my engagement ring. I love both of them and together they are perfect.

If anything, I am considering not picking out a wedding band and just continuing to wear my engagement ring instead. I’m not a jewelry person at all, but I absolutely love my engagement ring and how it fits my personal style, simple but a little unique. It’s also a bezel setting which I partially wanted because I knew it would wear well at work.

I see myself wearing my engagement ring forever. For me personally, it's a reminder of everything that led up to the wedding. All the memories that we shared that made him give me my engagement ring because he knew he wanted to be married to me and all the memories inbetween the proposal and the wedding. To me, the wedding band is a reminder of our future. All of our future happiness, sorrow, struggles, and accomplishments!

I really like how well you articulated yourself with your reasoning! I think its definitely a personal choice and that no one should feel like they are wrong in choosing to/not to wear their engagement ring! Heck, some people don't even wear their wedding bands unless it's for formal events!

My FH actually made my engagement ring. I've been contemplating what to do with it after the wedding. He says my wedding band will look very similar but of a higher quality. I've considered making a necklace out of it. Or wearing it on a different finger. Or putting it in a shadow box. Ideas would be helpful! Lol

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So cool that your FH made your ring! DH also makes jewelry, so wearing earrings he has made for me is always a bit special. That's also why having our wedding rings handmade was also important to us. What is your ring made of?

I love my engagement ring its 3 year generation passed down to me. So very special to me.

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I’ll wear mines! They will be soldered together after the wedding!!

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Maybe it could be refashioned into earrings or some beads for a charm bracelet? Of course those would mean not keeping the ring whole.