Divided family

There's not a ton of detail here, but since this sounds rather complicated, I'll just say:
Invite who you want there and who you couldn't imagine the day without.
Don't invite anyone toxic.Don't feel like you have to invite in "groups" (i.e. inviting your mom's relatives or ex doesn't mean you have to invite her).And don't invite anyone who would cause drama or be unsupportive of the choices you make above.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jasmine E. I think I can finally start my guest list and not rip it up lol.

You and fiancé make a list of those people who you cannot imagine the day without. Their relationships with others don’t matter as long as you want them in attendance. Send announcements afterward to everyone else.



Don’t invite anyone out of guilt or obligation to please others. Parents can host a family reunion at another time. Don’t invite anyone toxic, even if it’s your parents. Don’t invite people by circles if you are not close to everyone. Only invite those you are closest to emotionally, not biologically. Don’t cut out close friends just to fit relatives you don’t care about. Significant others must be invited as a package deal unless the partner is racist, violent, abusive.