Divorce after couples months of been marriage

Your first priority must be your children. I don't agree with alyssachu often, but I will this time. The trust is broken. I'd make a clean break of it. See a lawyer and find out how to protect yourself. You deserve better.

Nancy T@ yes we been leaving together for a year now . We moved together after two years of relationship when we got engaged

And yes I know I can see a lawyer and probably don't get out with empty hands but it's sucks start over again . My firts divorce was hard on the kids and now they have an stability and here I go againg when another posible break up . I know it's what it's is just sucks

Dayivi I'm sending you all the virtual hugs! I agree that you should definitely suggest counseling for you both. I'd also make it clear that if he goes through with the divorce you're leaving.

Whether you proceed with divorce or not, I would get into couples counseling. I will say this: the fact that he doesn't want to be married but waited until AFTER the wedding bodes very poorly for the relationship, as does your comment that you feel he needs to realize he needs help first. It honestly just sounds like neither of you care anymore, but are staying together and moved forward with getting married because you felt that was the next thing to do.

I think what you're going to find in counseling is that there are deeper issues for both of you, that you will both likely be recommended to individual counseling as well, and the couples therapist will help you figure out how best to make a clean break: for your sakes as well as any children involved.

Regardless, PLEASE seek counseling. It should have honestly been sought well before the wedding and could have prevented all of this.

I don't think I have much to add to the great advice you've already received. I just want to say that I am sorry you are dealing with this. Keeping you in my thoughts.

I'm curious as to know WHY he wants a divorce. What does he think will happen if he stays married?

I'm with you, though. If he wants to go through with the divorce, I'd break up completely. Going through a divorce is expensive and can be arduous. He wants to put you through that and still stay together? Nope.

T-Rex: As they've been married only a couple of months and they seem pretty amicable, a divorce shouldn't be that expensive at this point. I mean, in two months it's unlikely they've accumulated much, if any, marital property, so division of assets should be pretty simple, and assuming they can work together, they could have one lawyer draw up the paperwork, sign it, and have it done for less than $1000. I've known a few couples who have done something similar, even after much longer marriages.

I'm so sorry this is happening. Definitely recommended counseling. You need to feel secure in your relationship.

Thats not stability, at all. Your children are sitting on the fence with you. Stability is having a man that knows what he wants and doesn't change his mind after he commits to something. Just because a body is filling that extra parent spot doesn't mean it's healthy

This sounds like she might be able to get the marriage annulled.

He's firts marriage end it cause they both got marriage at 19 and I guess according to him she start going out to bars and come home drunk , he was in the army back them but he retard due Hart problems so he went on disability and so and so so they got divorce since them he had long turn relationship but never got married again . Now he's fine he's not on disability anymore he's Heart problem it's under control and he is working for several years now ,he is a electronic tech. We are both 38 now . Everything was fine and like I said before we have been living together for a year now he just say that been marriage scare him . He didn't say he wants to break up he just don't want be marriage I don't understand he say he dosent understand either he just scared.

I think this is shady as hell. I'm so sorry OP but I would run for the hills. For him to even think he could ask that of you.

Runnnn

I have that part straight on my head either we stay marriage or I walk out its just sucks that I decide to remarried and we bought a house and everything was normal and one day everything is upside down .

Counseling this doesn't make sense

What did you decide to do?

Counseling. I'm very sorry you're going thru that. Please get to a couples therapist.

Why did he propose if he's scared of marriage? Or did you propose?

Walk. It hasn't even been TWO months you've been married.

IMO if you're dealing with this already you'll probably deal with these issues for the rest of your life.

I wonder how this all came out?