Divorce S/O: Anyone have any worries?

I'm 34 and never married. FH is 29 and never married. No kids for either of us. Obviously, I want to grow old with him and stay together forever. However, I find it naive to say that you would never, ever get divorced. No one knows what the future will bring. If FH decides to be a crackhead in 15 years, then yeah, I don't think I would stay. I am 99.9% sure FH would never be a crackhead, but I am also not God, so I don't foresee the future.

I come from divorced parents, but my H does not. When I see my future, I see H. Right now and almost 4 months into marriage, I have absolutely no plans to get divorced. Our plans for the future are to travel, excel in our careers, and start a family. But I’m also not naïve to think that divorce isn’t a possibility. I can’t predict the future. I don’t know who or how we will be in 10 to 15 years. My hope is that we stay together forever and ever. But if things go sour or one of us disappoints the other, I am thankful divorce is an option. We owe it to each other to try and fight for our marriage, but we owe it to ourselves to leave the marriage if it’s to salvage our own happiness.

Well said Lindsay. . .happiness and/or well-being.

Well said Lindsay! That's exactly what I was trying to say. For some reason all I could think of was crack circumstances!

I had a psychic tell me I'd be crazy rich and fine as hell. PSYCHICS ARE REAL.

I am curious about this psychic thing and want to know more. Did you just walk in and sit down and not tell him anything? I have always wondered how accurate they are.

My parents got divorced when I was 4. There were a lot of issues but I also think that my parents would never have gotten married had my mother not been pregnant with me. They had nothing in common and were dating casually when mom got pregnant. So in their case, they felt that they didn't have an option. The day I married my ex-husband I knew it was not a good idea but thought that as we had 2 daughters already, we needed to get married for them.

My FH and I have talked a lot about marriage and what it means to us. (FH's parents were also divorced and FH says he never wants to go through that). I think that we (FH and I) will have a successful marriage because we have similar personalities, sense of humor and priorities. We discuss issues when they come up and can disagree and debate points without getting rude or disrespectful.

Looking back, I think my ex was a lot like my father and so I didn't see the issues at first. Comparing my FH to my ex is like night and day.

No, I called a hotline.

I'm curious what psychics charge

It was so nice to come back and see such thoughtful, real responses!

I agree with everyone else here. It's hard to know who we will all be in **** years.

Here are some things that FH and I have come up with/based our vows on:

1. Be best friends (always laugh!) and always be there for eachother

2. Never go to bed angry

3. Always hang up the phone with an "I love you," even when we're mad (which we do this already and always have).

4. Never let anyone talk down/bad mouth the other (including kids, out of respect for each other, and kids should obviously respect their parents)

5. Always fight for each other

I know from my parent's marriage, my Dad gave up long before, so there was no way they could have salvaged anything. I told FH that no matter what happens, we're stuck with each other. We need to work out, or get help working it out.

I had a palm reader tell me Iʻd only married once. So made FH propose to me.

I think it was $7.99 a minute. But this was one I found on Craigs List. I think there are more expensive ones that are like $20.99 an hour. We talked for 10 minutes and she also told me that a dark love would be coming into my life and our fur baby is black so she was right about that too.

I drive by like 3 on my way home from work, maybe I'll stop one of these days and see what they say.

I'm really serious. I WANT TO KNOW.

All she asked me was what my favorite movie was and what color my socks were. She really got me though, it was so weird!

Wow that's really impressive Andrea!

My parents divorced when i was young. it was their second divorce for each of them. i feel like seeing that and seeing how they treated each other growing up really taught me a lot.

FH's parents divorced when he was in high school. and they both remarried within a year. FH's dad has confided that, looking back, he regrets the divorce. he wishes that he had given it more of a fight and really worked harder at it. he's shared a lot of wisdom with FH.

i think with both of that in our childhoods, it's really taught us how to make a relationship work and what keeps it going. FH is so super big on communication, which is something i've had to work on because my ex used to always just walk away from shit. he's really helped me a lot and i think the communication we give each other is super important. we're also really big on still DATING each other. we always make time for each other and i think that's huge.

i have no worry of divorce for us. it's not even an option for me.

My sister and I were having a similar convo...it seems that people only have negative things to say about marriage...all I hear is how hard it is and how much work and all that...but I just wonder where are the could stories...after years of marriage if all you have to say for it is its hard...that doesn't sound very good. I don't expect rainbows and sunshine or fairytail...I live in reality...but why so much negativity...

Thanks ladies! I’ve enjoyed reading all the comments and stories on here.

Honestly... There's a possibility anyone could divorce. My thoughts.... I have a hard time making decisions... I frequently doubt my decisions but there was nothing I was so sure about in my life. 9 months married and I work overnights he's does days and I still get excited to come home to him and can't help but to grin when I walk in the door and take a nap with him until he gets up for work. I still get butterflies after 2 years together and I'm thankful

For him everyday. He was married before.. They had it annulled though...

All of our friends and parents all say how were great together. My

Mother and father never married. Mom got married when I was 8 to my "step"dad. He raised me. He sacrificed and gave up to be sure my sister and I were always taken care of... Even though we weren't his blood, he would have given the world for us, and they've been married 19 years... The in-laws are at 38 years married... Divorce scares me... But like I said... I've never been so sure of anything in my life